Personal development

Boredom leads to death

Paint this picture in your mind. You are just sitting around a campfire and you are listening to the chirping of the evening birds, you hear the crickets singing and the fire crackling? Now, most of you will be like that sounds like a calm, romantic and nice environment to be in. And I agree with it 100%. However, if you would be there with your phone, a possibility to watch a film even read a book, would you despite all those distractions concentrate on nature and the moment? I would bet on no. And calm your horses, I know you would want to say that you would enjoy the moment. I know you would want to say you are strong enough to ignore the automatic curiosity your brain has to check that bling on your phone. But you (probably)wouldn’t and nor would I (unless I really put my mind to it)

Would you just sit and listen to a fire crackling and birds chirping?

The reason I am talking about this is that in society today it is more appreciated that you react to that bing and answer the email right away. It is cool to have an Instagram account and post every 5 minutes. And since this is the norm, our brain, that is formed so that we are easily bored, to adapt the fastest, now is bored with those things that make us healthier.

It has been proven by various studies that even just a little walk in nature will lower your stress. For one of the most recent examples science daily has posted a report 6th of July 2018. The report is based on gathered evidence from over 140 studies with more 290 million people included.  “The report reveals that expose to greenspace, reduces the risk of type II diabetes, cardiovascular disease, premature death, preterm birth, stress, and high blood pressure” To read in more, visit here: ScienceDaily. So, what happens when we are bored with the most natural aspects of life?  When we must have some kind of noise on the daily? To have music on when you get dressed, take your phone with you to the bathroom, because you are too bored to take a fucking shit without having something to check all the time. What does this lead to?

Death.

I don’t mean the literal kind where you raise the stairs to say good day to St. Peter or where the lights are turned off or whatever you believe is death. Though it leads to it indirectly. But what I mean is the death where you don’t enjoy life, being depressed or just existing without purpose. Isn’t it disturbing that we see breathing unimportant? Sure, we will think about it if we can’t take a breath. But what about enjoying breathing during a crisp winter morning or the smell of petrichor; the sent right after the rain.  Instead of going through the emotions about your family member passing away you feel you owe to tell it to your followers. And instead of those followers living and feeling their own lives they feel they have the right to demand of you to tell your private lives for thousands of people just because they are bored with their own lives. Bored with the silence. Bored of not having attention from others.


Boredom is simply the absence of an interesting perspective. 

Brandon A. Trean

If day in and day out your brain is used to watching constantly new videos, pictures, and memes or whatever else you come up with. It gets used to it. The brain becomes bored with the constant similarity of listening to birds or the wind in the trees or whatever else because it becomes too “boring”. The thing is that in the past having a concentration that is broken fast by a twig breaking under an animal’s foot etc. But even then, people were able to stay focused and do “boring” things all the time. Have you ever gone berry gathering? That is boring and hard, but you had to do it to have food. So how was it that people then were able to do it but now it is way too difficult to even have silence in the room for 5 minutes? Or not have content to feed on?

As I am not a health professional I would suggest you do an honest check with yourself and see a doctor if you feel like you are addicted to your phone/Internet. There are a lot of health issues linked to internet addiction, like being more depressed, more anxious and even aggressive. And on top of this there are many ways of being addicted online, being a shopaholic, feeling the constant need to be social; with the fear, of missing out if you don’t check Facebook.

If you were already calming yourself up thinking that you aren’t addicted because you would never be interested in something as stupid as Facebook, wait up. I will disrupt your calm. If you are constantly researching things online, watching to educational videos that can be an addiction as well, and since it is technically productive it feels like it can’t be a bad thing. But just like you can be addicted to going to the gym in an unhealthy manner or feeling you must restrict eating even after you’ve lost weight already, you can be addicted to research. To read more about this addiction visit: Mentalhealthamerica


Photo by Daniel Korpai on Unsplash

You must retrain your brain to be ok with the silence. To concentrate on one thing for hours. The issue is that if you want to develop yourself you must become comfortable with what today we see as boring. You might need to learn a presentation so by heart that even if someone interrupts it you will be able to answer the question and continue. You might be a dancer and need to train for hours so you finally master something. Or you might have forgotten that those things you are bored with now, used to fill you with joy. The calm romantic evening around a campfire. The walking in the forest, without the phone or the camera without any company. Just you.

Even for the basic day to day life. You must learn to make sure your brain is ok with silence. If going to nature is so healthy for us, but we feel bored doing it, we won’t go. And that will cause huge risks for us. Not only with considering the stress factor but also fitness and getting cleaner air.

One of my biggest fears is to wake up one day and not want to do anything but lay in bed and scroll Instagram. To find it too difficult to get up to get out for a walk. To hate doing the basic things to such an extent I would rather be on the phone watching others live their lives while I waste away and die. Boredom, trying to get a quick fix of whatever instant gratification you have chosen can lead to actual premature death. Whether this is due to overeating and not moving or becoming depressed enough due to self-comparison you end up killing yourself. Or it can be less dramatic at this moment, it could just mean wasting your life away and regretting it on your death bed. And that freaks the crap out of me. Living 80+ years (if I get that far) and regretting my life.

What is your biggest fear? What is it that you spend the most time doing online? So much so that it ends up affecting how much actual work you get done in a day? If you feel like you need help please seek help. Sometimes, however, we can figure these things on our own, if we see the issues early enough. Then we must work hard on disrupting out patterns. So, I challenge all of you who spend way too much time online, to go and do 5 push ups every time you feel like reaching for your phone/computers or if you realize you are scrolling mindlessly already. Once 5 push-ups get too easy (or if it is easy already) push yourself further. We can change our lives and make it interesting putting some effort into things we do. And pushing ourselves to enjoy the silence and appreciate it as well will help enjoy our lives.

One of my biggest goals is to become proud of myself and of what I’ve been able to achieve by pushing myself. Therefore personal development and learning about successful people has become so addicting for me. I shouldn’t confuse inspiration for action. Therefore I write these posts, and this is why especially today’s topic was so important for me. What is your biggest current goal? And what is the one thing that is standing in your way, regarding your habits/addictions?

Thanks for reading and don’t forget to comment below, let’s have a conversation! 🙂

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Lessons in life, Personal development

What is wrong with Social media?

I love love love love social media. I love looking at amazing pictures on Instagram or Weheartit or watching videos on Youtube. Learning about new things, talents and people through social media is great. Being able to connect with your friends whether they live next door or if they are 5000km away. But there so many issues and I think the sooner we accept that these are issues and we aren’t supposed to just “take it” the better.

  1. We aren’t supposed to post everything about everything. This is so so fake and sometimes mean. If you are about to help a homeless person. You do NOT need to take a video of it. That is just asking for thanks from other people. If you see a fight do not stop to take a video but call 911 or 112 depending on where you live. If you are about to go to the bathroom to take a dump, stop taking selfies every time in the bathroom. There is nothing with the concept of selfies but if it means that your friends have to wait on the outside for 10 minutes (or more) for you take the perfect on… that’s just sad.
  2. We do not have to accept that our attention span is soon shorter than a what a goldfish has.  I have a teacher in school who is a social marketing guru. And he is great don’t get me wrong. But I noticed that he kind of seemed to confuse marketing and day to day life. I took his course on Social media marketing and he taught us with videos. All of the videos were 3-10 minutes long maximum 15. And every time the video would be almost 15 min long he would keep apologizing for it being so long. Look in marketing the shorter the video with your point still getting spread the better BUT when we are learning something short ass videos is just frustrating. I had to all the time click for the next vid and to click it to start and all of that isn’t hard to do. It just made the subject really fragmented. What I mean is that we don’t have to just accept that our attention span is getting shorter. Just because digitalization is a real thing and to accept it doesn’t mean that we have to accept everything that comes with it. We need to still be able to concentrate for more than 30 seconds or 3 minutes at a time. It is impossible to write a 30-second book or to have a movie play out in 30 seconds (and for us to actually get the value out of them.)
  3. Beauty standards. We do not and never have to accept it. Here is why. If we look at a photo of a scientifically beautiful person. They are in every way symmetrical. Their eyes are on the same line (exactly) there nose is right down the middle of the face and so on. The issue is that of an actual human this “perfect” human looks alien like. They do not look good. So what I am trying to say is that there is no such thing as perfection because even scientific perfection doesn’t really look that good. What we do have to concentrate is on health. Actual overall health. Shape and size don’t automatically mean anything. Just like whether or not you have a “perfect” nose or something of the like. (Also what is a perfect nose?)
  4. Life standards. We aren’t all going to live in a villa near a beach with pool boys surrounding us. I mean we can do that. If we work hard and we achieve our goals (but I don’t even know if that should be everyone’s goal… to each their own) But let’s stop comparing our lives to the perfectly constructed story we are told on social media. It isn’t healthy.

Social media is interesting and fun. But we have to draw a line somewhere. How many hours do we scroll the feeds? How shitty do we feel when we see that person have everything we don’t? What about the way it affects our brains in a negative way? All these things aren’t something we have to accept!

Thanks for reading! Comment below what you think 🙂 What bothers you the most in Social Media?

Xoxo

-Alisa