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Concentrating on me…blog comes second

So I have been writing blogs on and off since I was like…. 17? And I like writing but I do not hold myself to a great standard and that kind of sucks… I mean for me to be a good blogger who advocated for personal development I should actually lead by example and to be honest I don’t.

I feel like a fake doctor writing the blog and talking about how to live your life but still not even doing so myself… And I think it is time for me to take a long long pause. And just concentrate on the things I can change in me and my life, one step at a time. Without this feeling of pressure of already needing to be there…

I will most likely once in a while write. But this blog is going to be a hobby mostly. Maybe I will pick it up soon again maybe it will take years time… maybe it will never be my thing again. But for now. Do not expect consistency I need to concentrate on my actual life goals right now and that is to improve my health, mental physical and spiritual if you will 🙂

Thanks for understanding

xoxo

Alisa

What is Personal Development?

Personal Development is a lifestyle, at least in my opinion. It is a choice to make sure that you do not get stuck, that you keep moving forward and growing as a person. It is this idea, that no matter how much you know you never know enough and no matter how good you are at something you can always do better.

This doesn’t mean you should beat yourself over not being Mozart at the age of 15 or not being able to do the same kind of discoveries as Einstein. Look all of us have the things that we are either better or worse at. We get inspired by different things and that is fine. The important part is to be inspired. To find interest in whatever it is that we find interesting.

Personal Development is a healthy choice. It is a choice where you have control over the kind of person you are and want to become. It makes a huge difference when you can be educated and interesting to not only others but to yourself. Reading, writing, being an artist of any kind. Being sportive being a motivator, all of those things fall under being interested in developing, improving and growing yourself. To each their own. Really what makes you happy while trying to develop is your own business. It could be meditation, praying, reading 50 books in 2 weeks, watching documentaries. Whatever it is that you do, if it makes you grow, it really is worth the time and the effort.

But remember you do not have to pay 1000000000$$$ to someone to become a better version. Getting a book on the thing that interests you is great. Sitting and being mindful for 10 minutes, or even just 3 is great. In the end, it doesn’t take that much effort if you use about 30 minutes of your day, to become better, and who knows you might get hooked on it like me, and be doing it as much as possible.

Please comment below, how you like to better yourself. Let me know how your personal development journey started.

Xoxo,

The Writer

How to relax and why?

Hello my lovely readers, I have been on a short, much needed break and now I am back inspired and ready to write. So let’s get to this posts topic; relaxation, de-stressing, calming your mind, battling anxiety and all that not so fun stuff that everyone of us goes through in some form. But we can make the process fun.

A disclaimer before I get to my post, everyone is different. What works for me might not for you and sometimes we have to tweak some things to fit our own needs, so do not take my words as the law but as a guidance towards the right direction, let’s begin!

  1. Calming scents:  There are many calming scents. Most we know, lavender, chamomile, Vanilla, sandalwood. For me the most relaxing scent is the fresh air right after rain, and there is actually scientific proof that this scent helps calm the mind. For more information visit this site: http://www.livescience.com/49520-smell-of-rain-aerosols.html. It is quite easy to incorporate these scents into your life. Candles, teas, aromatherapy and walks in the nature are just some that come to mind right away. More about aromatherapy here: http://www.aromatherapy.com/
  2. Relaxing by listening:  I find calming music, the sound of rain or thunder or just water (river, waterfall etc.), birds (real or on a play list),relaxes me extremely well. But also just sitting in silence can be healing for the mind. Just find what is the best solution for you at each given time.
  3. Habits to calm your mind: Sometimes you have to incorporate more than just one thing in order to find peace so I have great combinations for you.
    1. Take a nice walk in the nature while having some essential oil(lavender, chamomile, vanilla) on your wrists,  and the pulse points on your neck.
    2. Take a relaxing bath and read a good book, drink some tea or coffee (with no caffeine would be best.) . More about the therapeutic benefits of reading here: http://www.thereader.org.uk/media/72227/therapeutic_benefits_of_reading_final_report_march_2011.pdf.
    3. Meditate, there are amazing amounts of ways to meditate and I am a strong advocate to finding your own. I myself prefer to mix how I meditate. Sometimes if I find it hard to calm my mind I will listen to a meditation, so I can come back to the voice guiding me, but for example before sleep I like to do a mindfulness meditation, and I try to concentrate on my breath. I prefer this before sleep, because the voice won’t wake me up, if I accidentally fall asleep while meditating. (Which is perfectly acceptable, btw) For guided meditation you can go to YouTube and more information about mindfulness meditation over here: http://www.health.harvard.edu/blog/mindfulness-meditation-may-ease-anxiety-mental-stress-201401086967

There is so many more things you can do. The best way is to do your own research, I hope the links I have above help you get started. Get excited about your health. Relaxing and de-stressing is one of the most important things you can do for your health. A calm body and mind will keep your immune system working up to par. Thanks for reading, please comment  if you have ideas to add or what helps you relax ^^

xoxo,

The Writer