Fitness, Goals, Health, Personal development

Positivity doesn’t equal being delusional

#Bodypositivity #deathpositive #drugpositve #serialkillerpositve. FIRST THINGS FIRST

I AM part of the positivity movement. I AM a positive person. I AM a fucking spiritual person who believes in Law of Attraction (we can debate that another time) but I AM NOT delusional. And you shouldn’t be either.

Being positive about something doesn’t mean you should close your eyes from facts. If I get run over by a car, no amount of Law of Attraction will stop me from dying if my injuries are fatal.

No amount of body positivity will take away your risks of heart failure or joint failure if you are obese. NOW before you start attacking me ever so “politely” in the comments saying I shame people. Absolutely I do not. If you are happy in your body and you accept the health risks, or you aren’t happy and you work hard to make sure you turn your life around. I will treat you the same. But please for the love of God do not tell people bullshit stories about how no matter what you can be healthy and that no matter what positivity is 100% the answer.

If drug positivity or alcohol positivity, serial killer positivity etc etc etc would be movements we wouldn’t stand by them. The word positivity isn’t going to change the result of something.

Where does positivity 100% make a great impact?

When you have a positive mindset about being able to change your life for the better. When you talk positively about people to people, and don’t concentrate on other peoples shortcomings, what ever those are. Taking the time to see the good in the world. The beautiful fucking butterfly, the cute ass dog/cat. Meditating while believing that this day is going t be great and taking the time and effort to see the positive things in your day. This will make life amazing. It will give you power, instead of taking away the power. It will make sure that you can be proactive instead of reactive.

Positivity shouldn’t be a cover up. You don’t have to pretend to be happy if you are depressed. But you don’t have to start a “depression positive” movement, to counter act that having a depression is a serious issue. If you are depressed you should seek help, it can be a friend, family member or someone with a medical degree. The word positive doesn’t erase the original meaning of the world.

Great idea, but what about the implimentation?

Body positivity is a great movement. Shaming anyone for having a different body that someone else, is a despicable thing to do. A) When you shame someone you hurt them and they retreat into their shell and can end up being even more unhealthy. B) Shaming and scaring people isn’t going to make them change, that is why horrible pictures on cigarette packets don’t make people want to quit smoking.

So should we incorporate more positivity into the world of fitness? Yes. You don’t have to be size 0 to be healthy. You don’t have to have six pack abs. You don’t have to have the same goal as me or a body builder. But you should do everything in power of being “health positive”. Health doesn’t look the same for everyone. But there are limits to what healthy is, and we should be aware of that. No matter how much it sucks that burgers aren’t healthy, that sugar doesn’t have any nutritional value or that if you don’t move you are in a way bigger risk for different health issues.

Ending on a positive note ๐Ÿ˜‰

I love all people. No matter shape, size, color, religion, sexual orientation, gender and all of the other ways people can be shamed. I also happen to love the power we have as people to make changes in our lives. It requires effort, and it take time to change your life. But no matter what you can do it. You just have to see a reason for it. And living a fulfilling, long life with meaning and great experiences, seems like a good fucking reason to do it… wouldn’t you say?

Leave a comment bellow with your opinions on it. Let’s have this conversation. Let’s be positive yet realistic about it! Don’t hesitate to also follow me on my social media and join the community <3

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Lessons in life, Personal development

Avoiding these 5 life traps will save you

Have you wondered if you are in a matrix and everything is just an illusion. That you never really even know your potential because you are trapped into a box and you don’t have a way out right now?

Well without all conspiracy theories I can honestly say you probably are in a trap. A trap you have made for yourself and I am just as much a victim of a self inflicted trap as you are. The best way to get out of these traps is to recognize them.

5 Traps to avoid

  1. Needing to be always right. I get it. It is so fun to be right and seem smart. I like that feeling too. However most of the time being right doesn’t really do anything. Being wrong and accepting that doesn’t make you weak. It makes your aware of things and forces you to learn new facts and skills. Saying that you were wrong is one of the hardest things in life. I know… but, the thing is that if you don’t claim to be right in the first place you don’t have to take it back…simple
  2. Cursing that life isn’t fair. It isn’t and that sometimes sucks BUT the thing is that talking about how life isn’t fair and all of the rich people have everything and blah blah blah, it doesn’t do anything. Won’t turn life fair all of a sudden. It’s not like life hears your whining and is like “Shit, I have been a right bitch, must change” Instead of using your time to talk about how like isn’t fair, work hard with the rules that life has. Life is a bitch? Be a bitch back. Work hard and make sure you get ahead. It will require effort, but so does bitching about things. You might as well choose the one that brings you more value.
  3. Living by other peoples rules. I am knee deep in this trap. Honestly it is one of the hardest things in life. Especially when it comes to friends and family. If someone in your family has a certain way of seeing things, then you all of a sudden feel like shit if you go against those “rules”. I have big goals. But I often feel the need to make them smaller because they scare other people. Not even myself, but others. It is so easy to start thinking the same way as others. “That is too risky/too hard/” and all of a sudden you start wondering… “well maybe it is too risky/too hard/” You have just as much of a chance to fail and the things that are “safe”. Being miserable and safe is still a failure. Above all you end up hurting yourself by listening to others too much.
  4. Wanting things to be easy. This is a trap like no other. It is what makes people want to play lotto, or “buy into make money easy and fast by just clicking thing thing and paying 0.99 cents”. Life isn’t supposed to be easy. People get into a flow state when something isn’t too easy, we need a bit or a challenge to motivate us. Of course this also means that we can’t do things that are way too hard, because we need at least small successes to keep us interested. However if life would be easy, people who for instance got rich fast and now “have everything”, would be the happiest. And they aren’t. Work hard, achieve your goals, be of service to others. Easy isn’t the answer.
  5. Having pity party all the damn time. We get it. Life sucks. Teachers suck. Politicians suck…Everything suckity sucks sucks sucks. The problem is that whining about it doesn’t do anything. Talking about how someone is an idiot won’t change them into a fantastic person. You have two choices. Talk to them and say what bothers you. You delete them out of your life. Doing things that aren’t fun will always be in our lives. Either its taxes, or you have to have a war with papers or something else. Talking about how much it sucks and poor you, won’t take the tasks away. It will however prolong your suffering. So cut the pity party and just do the shit and move on.

In conclusion

This post might sound to many that we shouldn’t ever allow negativity enter our lives. This isn’t my goal. Crying is healthy, talking through shit is great. What isn’t great, is getting stuck in that shit. As a result not getting forward in your life. Life isn’t fair and some days suck. You can make choices and act in a way that makes life less shitty. One way is by getting out of the traps listed above.

I am most trapped into traps 3 and 5. Which one is the most problematic for you?

Xoxo, Alisa

Goals, Personal development, Spirituality

5 Personal Development Journaling Prompts

I have written a blog post about this a while ago. But I feel that this is so important that I want to do it again. And hopefully I add even more ideas and value to you guys ๐Ÿ™‚

  1. Write about the perfect life in your eyes. How would you feel about yourself. What would you do. Who would you spend time with. How would you bring value to the world. What would your salary be. Every single little detail. Write it out. And then start taking action, even if just a small little step like reading about the industry you want to work in or if you already have a degree sending out a well planned job application.
  2. Write about what you have learned this day. It doesn’t have to be anything too extravagant, because we obviously aren’t going to learn the same amount daily. Some days we actually have a course we attend or a lecture, while others we scroll internet for the whole day (yea…I see you ๐Ÿ˜€ ) This will help make you see you are actually evolving and especially so, if you make learning your priority n.1 and you go out of your way to have something new to tell your dear diary (yes the boys too, everyone gotta learn. If you want to keep it masculine get a blue one. If you like pink ๐Ÿ˜‰ nothing wrong with a bit of pink with glitter :D)
  3. Write out the amazing and positive stuff. Yes, even if your day sucked. Don’t write about the negativity (at least not on the norm) Your brain will remember the negative shit anyway. But write out the positive. Even if it is; well I got a parking spot fast. Yes, it counts as a positive.
  4. Journal of all of the opportunities you said yes to and no to. This way you can track if you are too much of a yes-person or a no person. If you always say no, you will realize that you might miss out on stuff (smart no saying is essential tho) and if you say yes too much, you aren’t reliable because you have to go back on your promises and that is worse than just saying no right away.
  5. Keep a goal journal. Write about how you achieve the goal. What you did right/wrong. What didn’t go as you assumed. Write what steps seem to repeat themselves no matter the goal. Make sure to keep it positive, the idea is to make yourself see the goals you have accomplished. This will give you the boost you need when you get into the dark place of ” I never do anything right”. BUT be realistic. If you could have reached that goal in half the time if you have been more disciplined. Write that. It’s still great that you achieved it and you should feel proud. But you have to learn from each goal, to make it easier next time, because you are prepared.

Whoop Whoop keep lets get it! I would love for you to tag me into pictures when you write these. On instagram @changedlife365 and on twitter same @changedlife365! Lets go let go lets go! I’m so excited for this! I really think these are great topics to write about. It can be daily, like with the positivity prompt or once in a while like the goals prompt. Make it your own!

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Have an amazing week <3

Xoxo, Alisa

Personal development

Jealousy; success killer

In this age it is so normal to have an opinion about everything. But does this opinion stem from something else except just “well I think this way”… perhaps jealousy?

More often than not I hear about how rich people are so selfish and if you have money then you sold your soul to the devil. If you look beautiful then of course you are shallow and you probably just got an operation done to enhance your looks. (If you have done an operation to enhance your look as long as it doesn’t harm you I don’t have anything against it)

But honestly, a lot of those people who have a lot of money actually do fight against every day issues. Leonardo DiCaprio is trying to fight against climate change iiSuperwomanii also known as Lily Singh is known to work for girls right (she also happens to have over 10 million subscribers on her platforms and is a millionaire and happens to be amazing)

Here is also a link to 30 most generous celebrities on Forbes.

My point is that just because you are rich doesn’t make you a bad person. Or if you look amazing or if you are famous or what ever it is that people feel the need to be jealous about…

The jealous are troublesome to others but a torment to themselves

William Penn

Money doesn’t make anyone good or bad. Money helps it show to others who you were before you got it. Selfish or not. Good looks don’t make you bad. A lot of beautiful people work hard in order to bring body positivity to the world.

Maybe people who talk about others in a negative, jealous way just want to be rich but they try to come up with excuses not to actually put the hard work required to become rich. It easier to say rich people are bad, because of course then you don’t need to work to become successful, who would inherently want to become a bad person?

The world as it is doesn’t have space for jealousy. If you want something go and work for it. Become a good successful person. You think of all people who are rich to be bad? Become the exception. But don’t let your jealousy and your excuses make you a bitter person. Because just like a successful person can be bad so can a poor/bitter person.

I would also like to add that those people who are extremely rich and are not interested in anyone else except themselves, who just harm others. They aren’t actually successful. Success is having a family, friends, health and great experiences in life. You can have those things without money. How ever you can’t buy loved ones with money, nor health. This is why I don’t ever think a horrible and selfish rich person will ever be actually successful nor happy.

I honestly think it would be a good thing to talk more about money. Not in the sense of I have this much and I can buy this many Channel products. But in the form of like here are all the good things you can get with money; you can take care of your family, you can help people achieve more things, you can have positive experiences that inspire you, you can study things and bring more value to others. You can donate to people in crisis, you can donate to hospitals. And yes, you can use the money on yourself as well, taking care of yourself, wanting good and wonderful things for yourself isn’t a sin. When you care for yourself, what ever that means to you, you can better serve others. As long as not everything is about you, money bad.

I honestly believe we will do way better as a nation if we just hate on people less. Instead of acting as if a mean tweet or youtube comment will change something, make sure we change the world with the way we live our lives. Like Tom Bilyeu always asks the people who he interviews ” What’s the impact you want to have on the world?” Ask yourself that and work on achieving it, instead of acting as if bitching about how someone has a Lamborghini and you don’t is unfair. Cos this might come as a shock… but life isn’t usually fair; but you can be.


Thank you for reading! I hope you resonated with what I had to say and I hope that now you can feel good about working hard to be successful. Just become the most friendlies, loveliest and caring billionaire in the world who gives a lot of extra value and care to the planet and the people.

xoxo, Alisa

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Personal development, Spirituality

The Secret- Rhonda Byrne (plus rambling)

 

Hello, my lovely readers! I have been on a pretty long pause again and boy has there been a lot going on this fall. Oh boy oh boy oh boy!

The most exciting thing is that I have been better acquainted with the law of attraction. Thank you for The Secret by Rhonda Byrne. And if you don’t know this book or what it about hurry up and get it. It is amazing.

Now some of you might be a bit skeptical and not believe it as radically as I do. (But I have actually achieved a lot of things using the methods described in the book, so I have my proof if you will) But anyway. If you ask and believe you shall receive.

To the skeptics out there, it isnโ€™t as out there as you might assume. People who believe in themselves and in their outcome are more likely to achieve those goals. They believe and that is why they see more of the options and solutions in case of problems. If you think you canโ€™t do something you are less likely to try. And if you donโ€™t think anything will work out, you are less likely to search for or notice solutions. The mind is an amazing tool we can use, now I choose to believe that it isnโ€™t just the human who is in control of this but what you choose to believe is totally up to you.

Now to those people who were like, well I thought about wanting a tesla I didnโ€™t get it, this is fraud. Did you actually believe you could have a Tesla? Did you just lay in bed and fantasize? Now visualization, imagining a future with the Tesla is great, but you wonโ€™t get it by just sitting around doing nothing. The universe works on energy, and is you donโ€™t give any energy then why should you receive it?

I have a ย huge amount of things I have learned this fall, not all fall into the category of spiritual so no worries to the readers who arenโ€™t spiritual. But when I write thing I might use some spiritual โ€œlanguageโ€ ย ย just take it how ever you want to. And keep an open mind.

And I do not accept any form of discrimination, as long as you are a good person I don’t care about your race, religion, sexuality or anything else of the like. SO if someone can’t handle differences and variety they should probably stop following me.

Anyway happy manifesting to you all and hope to talk to you soon! Let’s start a conversation in the comments below!

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Yours truly,

Alisa

 

Personal development

Hello darkness, my old friend

Hello darkness, my old friend
I’ve come to talk with you again
Because a vision softly creeping
Left its seeds while I was sleeping
And the vision that was planted in my brain
Still remains
Within the sound of silence

The sound of silence by Disturbed

In Finlandย  full on icky autumn is here. The first verse of the song quoted above is like the best description of what it’s like here. Dark, wet and just dead. And yet, I still do not want to let myself sink to the bottom of the frozen river and be all mopey. (Thought it is tempting and I slip once in a while)

How to improve our experiences about this autumn, alone and together.ย  Even if the weather isn’t the best right now (Disclaimer; I like early autumn, but this time with no light and nothing but rain? Nope!)

  1. Light a candle or 50. Candles give a cosy and warm atmosphere to the cold and dark. Plus Christmas (Holidays if you don’t celebrate Christmas)ย  is soon here, might as well prepare right?
  2. Do not just sit around. The worst thing that autumn does to a person, is make them tired and just a blob. We feel like there is nothing to do. It rains out so going out on a walk is meh and if its dark its also meh, so we settle for just being a blob. But do not let yourself do that. Go out even if it rains. (“Yeah hi, it’s me your umbrella, yeah I still exist, its kinda stuffy in the closet all the time ya know”) or if its literally pouring cat and dogs just do a small dance around your room to Christmas music. (Yes I’ve done it, and yes it was great.)
  3. Spend time with friends and family. Look we feel like we are sad company, like we have nothing to give because I mean, blobs don’t talk ya know? But really we should go out. Grab a hot coco that costs like at least 3โ‚ฌ too much. Having a sugar high and spending time with friends or family to take away your mind from the wind, rain and dark for a while. And that is exactly what we need, to think about the good not the bad.

Thanks for reading and have a cozy autumn <3

-Alisa

Personal development

Negativity- how to quit it

Negativity has been hot wired into our brain. It is one of the secret powers with which we have survived this far. But we do not really need negativity as we used to. I mean we don’t have to assume we will be attacked or anything along the lines. So why do we still hold on to negativity. Well evolution does happen very slowly, and thus it is our job to rewire our brains.

Disclaimer: This post isn’t about turning you into this rainbow pooping unicorn with no worries in the world. This is to help you see more good than bad, beaucause there really is a lot of good in the world as well.

  1. Be grateful. I am sure you have been shoved this from every person who is even a bit into personal development.ย But it is true. It is so easy to get stuck on thinking about what you do not have. That you totally disregard what is already there. So remind yourself every couple of days, of the things that make you smile. Maybe its your parents, your dog, your significant other, maybe it was the fact you got to read a great book. Just keep those things in mind as well, especially when your mind starts to wonder to the negative side.
  2. Write what you feel. You can call this a diary, journal what ever. Maybe just bullet points of ย “Things that annoyed me today” and then write them out, and chances are that at least 3 things were just very silly. Someone walked onto your heel on a busy street. (and didn’t even ruin your shoes and apologized). One waited in the lights 3,5 seconds after the light turned green. And urg that cashier didn’t even say good day. After you have written those out, doesn’t it feel silly that the whole 16 hours that you are awake a day on average, you say has been shit for those reasons?
  3. Kind of a continuation from the last point. Don’t churn the negative things all the time. Let it goooo, let it gooo. Ok, I will stop singing now I swear. But really, a) no one needs to hear your whining ( unless its an actual legit reason why you need to open up to someone, never hesitate to talk or seek help). But talking for hours about how that driver was an asshole won’t do anything. It will just make you get into a negative cycle that will be very hard to exit. Trust me. I know what I am talking about.
  4. If the things that bother you are actual problem try to figure out if you can do something about. Had a fight with a friend. Could there be a way to have a discussion and sort it out? Yes there probably is, unless you murdered their dog or something. What about sh***** I JUST came up with a perfect come back to that thing that bully said to me over 10 years ago. Can you change that? Well not really without seeming very pathetic. (I mean can you imagine calling Billy at 2 am, 10 years later to tell him” hey, yo momma is so big…?)
  5. Do things you know will make you feel better. Read a book, go for a walk, buy a candle and burn it. What ever it is that you know that no matter what the day was like, you i will enjoy doing it. Watch a stupid comedy, what ever rocks your boat. I for one love to laugh after a shit day. I mean I am 21 but I still watch the pink panther cartoon once in while. I mean it is satisfying how the person who does everything wrong and is mean always gets a lesson at the end ( and Pink Panther gets away with everything ๐Ÿ˜€ )

I hope those tips help and I would love love love to hear what you do to be more positive if I didn’t mention it above. Or even if I did. ^^ Thanks for reading and as always comments are appreciated. (Also I have no idea why Billy is the bully’s name, nothing against Billy’s here ๐Ÿ˜€ )

-Alisa

Spirituality

Law of Attraction

Daily I am more and more interested in the wonders of the Law of attraction or manifestation. I am aware that a lot of people do not believe in it. I how ever think it is a powerful tool, to take in to day to day life.

In short law of attraction is you attracting what you think about, weather or not it is conscious. So if you are all the time negative you will attract bad things, even things you specifically do not want to attract. But if you are positive then you will attract positivity. And for those who do not believe in this kind of a “voodoo” talk let me give you an example.

When you are in a bad mood, you tend to talk to others maybe a bit less politely and thus they do the same to you. Maybe you say something bad about someone and that someone finds out and confronts you etc. So negativity gives back negativity. But if you are positive and happy, you might give a compliment to someone, and by making them smile you smile even brighter, then someone will notice that smile and compliment you on it. See the pattern here? Law of attraction works with the same base line but on a deeper level. ย For more in detail explanation on what Law of Attraction is visit this link:

What Is The Law Of Attraction? Open Your Eyes To A World Of Endless Possibilities

The reason why I am so excited about the law of attraction, is that it can make a huge difference to our lives. Concentrating on the positive is proven to improve our mental health and get us to work hard to improve ourselves as people. By using law of attraction not only will it help to achieve more goals, it will help enforce the positive in us and around us.

Law of attraction is NOT magic, it isn’t this pseudo science thing that will all of a sudden give you all the answers and a billion bucks. You have to work with it. It is a tool to help you. It is there to guide you, but it is not an answer without hard work. Do not assume that this will make your life easy. You have to work hard on what your beliefs are about you and the surroundings, you have to make a conscious change with how you live your life but if you do; you will see results like no other.

To those who wonder if I have seen results in my life with the Law of Attraction then the answer is yes. If I am positive, a lot more good happens to me. If I am negative I become extremely clumsy, I bump into things and I hit myself against objects etc etc.

If you find it hard to change your views, hard to achieve a consciously positive mind, I suggest you turn to meditation. It doesn’t have to be a long session of sitting on your buttocks for an hour. It can be what ever you enjoy doing, that will clear you mind; painting, drawing, coloring, writing, going for a walk. If you want more information, then please comment below and I can make a post about meditation and how I do not think there is a right or wrong way to do it.

Thanks for reading,

xoxo, The Writer

 

Lessons in life

I don’t know- and that’s ok

I am the wisest man alive, for I know one thing, and that is that I know nothing.

-Socrates

This quote is something that everyone should read and understand. We might feel we know a lot, or might feel we should know a lot, but in the grand scheme of things, the knowledge we have, or thing we have is the size of a bugs sh***. Almost non existent. Now that doesn’t mean you are stupid or that you should start reading like crazy and never sleep so that you will know a bit more. No, this quote at least for me has a calming effect. Most of the time we do not know anything, and that is ok.

If it will make you feel better I can list at least 10 things at the top of my head that I do not know (but maybe I should)

  1. I do not know my purpose.
  2. I do not know most of the major rivers on the planet
  3. I do not know all of the major events in history.
  4. I do not know how old I will live to be.
  5. I do not know if I will have kids in the future.
  6. I do not know if I am studying what I really should.
  7. I do not know half of the compositions/composers I listen to. (classical music)
  8. I know little to nothing about Socrates and yet I used his quote here.
  9. I do not know what my day is going to be like tomorrow.
  10. Physics, maths and chemistry is ALL a huge mystery to me. ( I do know 1+1=2)

These are some things I do not know, and yes I am fully aware that some of the things are just lack of sophistication on my part. ( I promise to read upon at least some of the subjects) but somethings I do not know about is just that they are topics that are much bigger than what I am, like the reason why am I here, what will future bring and how I will die. Those things I will find out one day, but for now I am glad to live in the big un-known.

Do not think of yourself as failure, stupid, not good enough if/when you don’t know everything. Socrates is one of the most known Philosophers of our time ( I mean documented human time here) and yet he had the balls to admit he actually knows nothing. And he really wasn’t stupid now was he?

Keep going keep learning and keep reaching new heights but remember, no one, will ever know everything, and that is the beauty of life.

xoxo

Goals

Be gone negativity!

Let’s begin with the basics. Life is full of negativity. And our beloved high functioning brain, loves to get stuck on that negativity. It is a part of our survival mechanism to see the bad things in life more, so we are more careful and thus have bigger chance of survival. But we no longer live in the situation, where we should protect ourselves from the dangers nature has to offer, at least not usually. So we have to work against the natural wiring that our brains have. It isn’t easy, mostly because its a natural response our brain has but also because there is so so so much negativity going on in the world right now that the rays of positivity seem impossible to see but they aren’t. ย I have couple of tips and tricks up my sleeve that at least help me when I feel like everything is going down the gutter.

  1. Realize that being unhappy, negative, tired, uninspired is a human thing to feel. It is normal. Do not try to fight it. If you feel like crying, cry. If you feel like cursing, do it (just not at someone, that might just lead into more trouble really.) Do not lock the bad feelings inside. If you do not let the negative energy out, it will just swirl around your body and mind until it gathers more and more negativity, and something small can in the end seem like a freaking tornado.
  2. Do not keep it a secret. Now of course there is a place and time to share things. If someone tells you that their dog died, don’t add to their misery with your issues and problems. But sometimes if someone asks you if you are OK, just say that actually I am not really right now. Or if no one asks then you can go to a close friend or family member and ask them for a bit of time “I’m sorry I’m feeling really under the weather and I can’t seem to collect my thoughts, could I just talk with you for a bit?” The important part with having a conversation with someone is to at least consider what they respond to you. If they offer some tips and tricks, try them out. There is not harm done even if they don’t work, but they don’t feel like you are just whining and not interested in feeling better.
  3. Write it down. Not only does this help you organize your thoughts from “All is shit” “I suck” “Person X is an asshole” to a more organized, more descriptive text. Try to always think why things are how they are. Why is all shit and why do you feel you suck and why is Mr./Mrs. X an asshole. You will also feel better because you got at least some of the negativity on the paper, outside of you.
  4. PAMPER ROUTINE! Do something nice to yourself. Go out with friends for a coffee or a drink (in this case do not talk about your issues, this is to calm down and forget about your issues). Go for walk. Drink coffee/tea/hot coco. Go for a coffee alone, order something extremely unhealthy, because, come on, you deserve it! Read a book, watch a film/series. Take a bath/shower. Just make yourself feel good.ย 
  5. Last but not least, get yourself together. Not matter what it is that got you feeling like shit after you have let it out, talked it over and pampered yourself, let it go. (feel free to sing the song from Frozen.) Get up, go to your cupboard, get dressed, put on make up ( if you use it, you can also just do a skin care routine) get your hair looking human, organize your room and just show up. I don’t mean literally show up, but organize yourself so that you would be ready to show up anywhere. This gives a distinguished line between a self pitying blob ( that is totally OK for a while) and the high functioning queen/king that you are.

Do not let yourself get deeper into the swirl of negativity. Trust me if you want to find negativity and issues you will. There is more shit in this world that anything else. BUT if you want to find the positive things to concentrate it is very possible to do. Just find the things that make you happy and concentrate on those. Do the things you love and spend time with those who you love.

Side note: If you have depression please do not feel like my text means to “get over it”. In the ย case of an actual depression contact a doctor and get actual help. These tips are for short term negative feelings that anyone has. Not a holistic way of healing. A lot of energy and power for your journey as well. Hope these tips will make you feel at least a bit better, if you still decide to try them out.

What kind of tips do you guys have to get yourself functioning with a better happier energy? Please do share.

With love,

The Writer