Personal development

Jealousy; success killer

In this age it is so normal to have an opinion about everything. But does this opinion stem from something else except just “well I think this way”… perhaps jealousy?

More often than not I hear about how rich people are so selfish and if you have money then you sold your soul to the devil. If you look beautiful then of course you are shallow and you probably just got an operation done to enhance your looks. (If you have done an operation to enhance your look as long as it doesn’t harm you I don’t have anything against it)

But honestly, a lot of those people who have a lot of money actually do fight against every day issues. Leonardo DiCaprio is trying to fight against climate change iiSuperwomanii also known as Lily Singh is known to work for girls right (she also happens to have over 10 million subscribers on her platforms and is a millionaire and happens to be amazing)

Here is also a link to 30 most generous celebrities on Forbes.

My point is that just because you are rich doesn’t make you a bad person. Or if you look amazing or if you are famous or what ever it is that people feel the need to be jealous about…

The jealous are troublesome to others but a torment to themselves

William Penn

Money doesn’t make anyone good or bad. Money helps it show to others who you were before you got it. Selfish or not. Good looks don’t make you bad. A lot of beautiful people work hard in order to bring body positivity to the world.

Maybe people who talk about others in a negative, jealous way just want to be rich but they try to come up with excuses not to actually put the hard work required to become rich. It easier to say rich people are bad, because of course then you don’t need to work to become successful, who would inherently want to become a bad person?

The world as it is doesn’t have space for jealousy. If you want something go and work for it. Become a good successful person. You think of all people who are rich to be bad? Become the exception. But don’t let your jealousy and your excuses make you a bitter person. Because just like a successful person can be bad so can a poor/bitter person.

I would also like to add that those people who are extremely rich and are not interested in anyone else except themselves, who just harm others. They aren’t actually successful. Success is having a family, friends, health and great experiences in life. You can have those things without money. How ever you can’t buy loved ones with money, nor health. This is why I don’t ever think a horrible and selfish rich person will ever be actually successful nor happy.

I honestly think it would be a good thing to talk more about money. Not in the sense of I have this much and I can buy this many Channel products. But in the form of like here are all the good things you can get with money; you can take care of your family, you can help people achieve more things, you can have positive experiences that inspire you, you can study things and bring more value to others. You can donate to people in crisis, you can donate to hospitals. And yes, you can use the money on yourself as well, taking care of yourself, wanting good and wonderful things for yourself isn’t a sin. When you care for yourself, what ever that means to you, you can better serve others. As long as not everything is about you, money bad.

I honestly believe we will do way better as a nation if we just hate on people less. Instead of acting as if a mean tweet or youtube comment will change something, make sure we change the world with the way we live our lives. Like Tom Bilyeu always asks the people who he interviews ” What’s the impact you want to have on the world?” Ask yourself that and work on achieving it, instead of acting as if bitching about how someone has a Lamborghini and you don’t is unfair. Cos this might come as a shock… but life isn’t usually fair; but you can be.


Thank you for reading! I hope you resonated with what I had to say and I hope that now you can feel good about working hard to be successful. Just become the most friendlies, loveliest and caring billionaire in the world who gives a lot of extra value and care to the planet and the people.

xoxo, Alisa

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Fitness, Goals

5 things I will invest in next year (2019)

  1. Gym membership; I have a gym close by that costs about 20€ per month to go to, and group lessons are included so I think it is a pretty good deal. And if you consider taking even 4 classes a month that is only 5€ per class, and at least by Finnish standard that is already pretty cheap. If you on top of that actually also use the gym and go a bit more often on the group lessons, 20€ won’t seem like a lot.Β 
  2. Some good gym clothes. I don’t like the shoes I use and I definitely do not feel comfortable in the clothes I have usually used for gym. If it is all women exercise class I couldn’t give a f**** but if its mixed or if I am just at a gym I want to feel comfy and look semi put together (I end up looking like a tomato so it isn’t as if I can look amazing, but still. You gotta work with what you have.Β 
  3. Some good quality “capsule wardrobe” clothes. So clothes that will 100% fit with everything. I really don’t need anything that fancy. Thankfully I don’t have to wear a uniform during work and I have clothes to wear when I need to be a bit more put together. However, I feel I don’t have clothes that would make me feel 100% bomb, even if I would put them on in only 2 minutes. And I want something that simple. A simple white t-shirt with black jeans and some simple accessories, a bit of mascara and out we go. πŸ˜‰ Simple yet cute. I don’t want it to be the items that cost only 2€ and then I have to buy a new one every week. So I am OK with investing into staple pieces that will last me for years.Β 
  4. I am cheating a bit, but since I got myself a computer and then I got my phone as a gift I will count them as investments for the next year because mostly it was so that work would be more efficient for me. So I will imagine it counts πŸ˜€Β 
  5. Manicures…maybe. I don’t know how often and if I can find some place that makes them cheap but good, but I really want to get my nails sorted…. they not cute. So I have always had very thing fragile nails and when I put on nail polish (even if it’s not a cheap brand) it will chip off. With all of the base layers and top coats and all. Still, it just won’t stay on. And I hate chipped nail-polish more than anything. Plus maybe if my nails would be protected with a proper gel polish or even acrylic nails, I could grow them long enough to give them a shape…Β 

Thanks for reading as always. What would you want to invest in next year? Leave a comment down below.Β 

xoxo AlisaΒ 

Goals, Lessons in life, Personal development

Does money/success make us happy?

Does it suck that I have to say yes and no?

If we only concentrate on becoming rich so we can blow the money on drinks and yachts and never do anything smart with the money, you won’t be happy. You can ask anyone who gets rich without real purpose. Money for the sake of money isn’t fulfilling. And that is ok.

So in what ways does money make you happy?

  1. You have stability you will not have without money. It is important to know you can go home to sleep for the night. That if you are sick you can go to the doctors. That in case your car breaks down, you can afford to repair it.
  2. It gives you a chance to sometimes get some luxury when you need to have a vacation from stressful work you can see a bit of the world. You can share some fun times with your friends.
  3. If someone needs help you can do that. Money just for you, in the end, serves its purpose and then it no longer helps. It’s like how many pairs of shoes do you need to make you happy? After that, how about you share that joy and give someone else some of that joy. The pair you gift them might be the only pair they will own for next 6 months. They need it more than you anyway. You did a good job and you will feel better about it. (And it doesn’t have to be to someone you don’t know, could be taking a friend out for dinner cosΒ  you know they can’t afford that luxury right now or something of the like)

The post has been inspired by this video. You should definitely check it out πŸ™‚ And their channel, in general, is very beneficial for inspiring young people getting a healthier relationship with money:Β https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g0XR9yLTZJk

What do you think about money and how it affects your life? Do you have a healthy relationship with money? I must admitΒ  I don’t really,Β  but I am working on it.

Remember to like and comment! Have a nice beginning of the new week tomorrow πŸ™‚

Personal development

Make a decision and stick to it

I know what you are thinking. Thanks Alisa, that helped a lot. I sure as hell didn’t think you could have said anything more basic. And to that I will say, chill my friend. Just stick along and for what I have to say.

I am currently reading a book by Anthony Robbins; The Giant Within. Technically I am listening to it but you get my point. I am just starting up, but I am now in the part where he speaks about making decisions and how the choices we make can impact our whole life. But he makes a distinction between just a choice to see how things go and making a conscious decision to work for something. He goes as far as to state and we are so un used to making decisions we get lazy with it. That is why making a difficult important decision is so hard. And this got me thinking, how long I have lived my life in a way of just letting the current take me where it wants to.

What is Robbins idea for making our decision making muscle grow? Practice of course. Start making small decisions and sticking with them. You can do a big and a small decision just to see how it feels. And practice until you making a life changing decision won’t seem like “Oh well, but I wouldn’t be able to do that anyway.” Hell yeah you can, if you chose to do it.

I haven’t gotten further in the book, but I assume that Tony will talk about this at some point. I will still mention this as a thought. It isn’t enough to decide that I want thing A or I want to reach a million followers or what ever it is that your goal is. I would assume that a real decision requires action. You decide to do everything in your power to reach that goal, that idea, that step in your life.

How would this look in practice? I would think that not only do you decide what you want to do you make decisions on how to make it work and take action. Let’s try to see with an example shall we.Β  Let’s say you want to be a business owner:

  1. Decide what business you would want to own. Personal Development? Helping people find their missing relatives? What ever it is, just chose that.
  2. Decide to research the crap out of that topic. What type a business should it be. How much money to invest. How to market this project.
  3. Decide and make a email list, to whom you tell about this opportunity. (Beneficial if they are your targeted audience.
  4. Decide to invest, and do it.
  5. Start making daily decisions that make it possible to work on your business. If you are broke and investing right away isn’t a choice, make a decision to find a job to help pay for your dreams.
  6. Baby steps, even small decisions can have a big impact.

As always thank you for reading. If you have read the book please let me know what you thoughtΒ  and if you want to read the book or listen to it you can find it online πŸ™‚

-Alisa