Goals, Lessons in life, Personal development

Why finding your purpose kinda doesn't matter?

It is 2020 and you have all this energy to learn what you want to do for the rest of your life? WHY? Well everyone talks about purpose and their life missions and blah blah.

I bet that most of the people who have figured out their life purpose have changed it a bunch of times, or figured it out only after 40 or maybe even only realized what their purpose was when they were retired and had time to reflect on their past. I also bet that the people who have known what they want to be at the age of 5 are rare as fuck. (Let’s be honest we can’t all be doctors, pirates, princesses or astronauts…. real life sucks, to be honest)

So why finding your purpose isn’t that important?

  1. When you spend your time trying to find something certain you usually ignore everything else. You get tunnel vision. Like if you search of a fallen earing you probably don’t see all the dirt on the floor, not cos it doesn’t exist. But because you just concentrate on the earing. If you can’t see anything else except what you assume is your purpose (whether it is because people said you are good at it or because your parents want you to be a doctor) you probably won’t see the other options.
  2. If you only want to figure out the end goal you don’t enjoy the process of getting there. I did my internship as an office assistant… is it my dream job? No… is it my purpose for life? Probably not… but I’ve had some of the greatest experiences in that job. And I learned a lot about myself and my interests during that time! So go out there and experience things!
  3. Life purpose for many is something that they understand only at the end of their lives (and usually there were more than just one). And honestly, I assume that most of us don’t want life to end at the age of 20 or 25 or even 70. So why worry about something that you can learn and understand only at the end of the journey? Enjoy the process… don’t stress so much.

You aren’t off the hook tho!

Now don’t get me wrong. You should still have goals and passions and pursue them. Just don’t over analyze them. Having a goal to have an experience rich year is just as good as having a goal to become a doctor or to learn to skate. Whatever you learn this year about yourself and what you like, will take you closer to figuring out what you want to do… for now. And in 5 years you could learn it has changed. That is life.

Live your life.

I hope you guys have a great 2020!

Lessons in life, Personal development

How can we change the world?

People alive today have a tremendous responsibility to change the world. And I absolutely feel the same responsibility. As I should. BUT there are couple of messages on the media today that I don’t agree with.

One: If you don’t fight for all of the issues and causes in the world today you are an asshole; Honestly we can’t expect everyone to worry about every single issue in the world.

If you try to seriously fight against all the issues at the same time, you will fail. Not because you would suck as a person but because no person has the energy to fight against 1000+ things that are currently wrong in a world, and still have enough money and time for themselves and their family.

If you try to do 1000+ at once, we all know that none of those things will be done properly. So it is OK to choose only one or a couple of battles that you are willing to fight. No one is going to be useful if they are in an early grave due to lack of sleep/taking care of themselves.

“When the well’s dry, we know the worth of water.”

Benjamin Franklin

This quite is talking about how we notice the worth of something when there is a lack of it. BUT this works just as well when talking of people who have exhausted themselves. When you are no longer able to fight for anything, people will realize that you are missing.

“Those who think they have not time for bodily exercise will sooner or later have to find time for illness.”

Edward Stanley

This quote aswell isn’t a direct representation of what I am trying to say. But there is a point to it being here. When you don’t have time for yourself you end up in pain and suffering and sickness and that is when you are of no use to anyone else.

Two: There is this idea that if you believe in something and it is currently your mission in life, you have to become a recruiter and try and get everyone on board. There is this idea that if you can force someone to agree with you then somehow you have won. But actually you haven’t. Because you spent time trying to make someone agree with something they don’t want to do. Rather than actually getting people with the same mission and passion to join your cause.

Look nothing good has ever come from forcing people to see your way. It has been a catalyst for fights, violence and just plain negativity. Show the worth of your cause by fighting for it, show it by talking about it and by informing about it to the people.

If someone reads a blog post about it, or sees you take action, they are much more likely to start following and researching things. If you however yell at them for saying no once and call them an asshole they will never again want to hear anything from you or your cause. Most likely they will be turned off from the message totally, so no one else will get through to them either.

Three: My cause is better than your cause…. it sounds so similar to my religion is better than your religion… Seriously we aren’t five anymore. Every cause is important. Different causes help different things. Saving elephants is important for our ecosystem. Making sure that people get an education is important for over all improvement of the world. Helping people to succeed and to find their purpose is important, even if they would be “privileged”. Because they in turn can help those who aren’t so privileged after they have found their voice and their mission in life. Plus lets be honest. It is easier to help a lot of people at once when you have a voice and money. Sometimes saving ourselves first is the only way to save someone else. It is hard to save someone from drowning if we drowned first.

Honestly fighting who’s cause is more important and who’s money should be put in which charity is idiotic. It is common sense that someone who has lost a family member to cancer will be more likely to care about cancer care than about alcoholism. Someone who has seen poverty a lot will be more likely to fight against that than planting trees and so on.

Let’s spend less time fighting and way more time having discussion. Because sometimes two causes can be unified. Poverty, bettering education and girls rights can have some common ground. Planting trees and taking care of elephants might have something in common. When we join forces we are stronger. When we get stuck on someone not being exactly the same as us, we end up shooting ourselves in the ankle.

Wise men do not quarrel with each other.

Danish Proverb

What’s your mission in life? Leave a comment below I would love to have a discussion about this with you guys! And let’s remember, the more of us fight for different things, the more things will be taken care of 🙂

xoxo, Alisa

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