meditation

How I meditate now?

You are not meditating wrong. Unless you aren’t meditating. I want to tell you how I have been able to incorporate meditation into my life. If someone tells you to do something but doesn’t give you a chance to do it your way, you will eventually quit doing it. 

Why should we meditate? 

Meditation has many health benefits and it has been often said to have been a very important contributor to success. Oprah, Angelina Jolie, Tom Bilyeu, Hugh Jackman, and so many others meditate.

What does it do ?

It makes you present, gives you more clarity in your thoughts and gives you the discipline to work hard. Because you have taught yourself to not follow every thought, or if to follow them do so in a controlled manner.

How do I do it?

I have so many things in my head at any given time, esp now with school and work at the same time. I decided there is a way to help this “monkey mind”. I can actually make it less hectic. How? I write my thoughts out in a mind map. You might wonder why is this a better way than the more traditional one… It isn’t. It is just something that works for me. First I get to see all that is going in my head, in a concise package. The point usually of the mind map is to just blurt out things onto paper and find some things that relate to others and sometimes it helps you find solutions.


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For me honestly, it isn’t about the solutions. Not in this state. It is to calm and quiet my mind so that once I start work I can concentrate on it. And a good tip is to have a piece of paper with you while you work. If some thought just keeps bugging you, write it down and analyze it later.

Hope you found this idea helpful. I am sure there will be some people who will say that this isn’t meditation. But it calms me, it helps me think more clearly and it makes me stay in the present moment. In my mind that is pretty close to meditation.

As always, thank you for reading. Comment and Follow. My goal is to grow and improve so all constructive criticism is welcome (and compliments too 😀 )

Xoxo

Alisa

Why is meditation hyped? Should it be?

Here we are again my friends. Talking about meditation. Well why is it hyped? Meditation is an simple yet effective way to shut that monkey in our brain. It makes easier for us to focus on the tasks we should, but still gives us a possibility to go through out thoughts, without judgment of course.

A study done in Harvard University has scientific proof that not only is meditation good psychologicaly it enhances our brains physical performance, by building more gray matter. In as short time as 8 weeks MRI scans showed a increase in grey matter. This is something that explains why many people say that the benefits they reap from meditation aren’t plainly psychological or emotional, but also cognitive.

(Find the article here http://www.collective-evolution.com/2014/12/11/harvard-study-unveils-what-meditation-literally-does-to-the-brain/ )

This is great information. I am sure there are studies that show how meditation decreses risk for heart failure and for different forms of dementia. But is all the hype really necessary?

Yes and no. Look for me to tell that meditation is just bogus and stop waisting your time, would be hilarious considering I try to do it as much as possible. It helps me in so many ways, (all listed above) and I just want to make it a daily habit. So what is the down side of meditation?

It isn’t the act of meditating itself. It is the hype culture around it. Everyone in the personal development world makes it some kind of a super drug that will solve all your problem. Look mate, I am sorry to break it for you, but it isn’t. It really really isn’t.

First of all let us talk about the basic idea for mediation: Sit down in a lotus position, back straight and relax. Okay, let’s stop right there. My back hurts like hell in that position. Albeit it is my own fault because my back is just super weak, but I am not gonna get any relaxing done in that position. Try to make sure you aren’t thinking about anything. If a thought comes by, just let if float past.  What kind of a witch do you think I am. If I could just let it fly away I wouldn’t need meditation in the first place. Catch my drift here?

Get this misconception of meditation being this easy hack, out of your head. It is simple. It isn’t rocket science but it isn’t easy. You won’t even maybe feel the benefits of it, until you do it for a week. If you aren’t consistent then it might take you longer. So it isn’t a magic pill. It is a habit that you have to grow, in order to become better.

Then the second part why I think meditation is overrated, at least online, is how it is marketed. Sit, breath, ommm, relax. But the thing is that isn’t the only way to meditate. For someone it could be a walk. For some drinking coffee and listening to birds chirp. For someone its going riding on a horse etc etc.  There is no right way to mediate. Now I am sure that different ways affect us differently but in my opinion, the most important thing, is that you enjoy the process ( you are more likely to do it more often) and that your mind gets some peace and calm.

Personally I love to lay down and listen to a guided meditation. That way I can concentrate on the voice that guides me and breathing as told. Thus I am not as tempted to get sucked into my thoughts and worries.

How do you like to meditate?  Comment below what you think!

-Alisa

 

What is Personal Development?

Personal Development is a lifestyle, at least in my opinion. It is a choice to make sure that you do not get stuck, that you keep moving forward and growing as a person. It is this idea, that no matter how much you know you never know enough and no matter how good you are at something you can always do better.

This doesn’t mean you should beat yourself over not being Mozart at the age of 15 or not being able to do the same kind of discoveries as Einstein. Look all of us have the things that we are either better or worse at. We get inspired by different things and that is fine. The important part is to be inspired. To find interest in whatever it is that we find interesting.

Personal Development is a healthy choice. It is a choice where you have control over the kind of person you are and want to become. It makes a huge difference when you can be educated and interesting to not only others but to yourself. Reading, writing, being an artist of any kind. Being sportive being a motivator, all of those things fall under being interested in developing, improving and growing yourself. To each their own. Really what makes you happy while trying to develop is your own business. It could be meditation, praying, reading 50 books in 2 weeks, watching documentaries. Whatever it is that you do, if it makes you grow, it really is worth the time and the effort.

But remember you do not have to pay 1000000000$$$ to someone to become a better version. Getting a book on the thing that interests you is great. Sitting and being mindful for 10 minutes, or even just 3 is great. In the end, it doesn’t take that much effort if you use about 30 minutes of your day, to become better, and who knows you might get hooked on it like me, and be doing it as much as possible.

Please comment below, how you like to better yourself. Let me know how your personal development journey started.

Xoxo,

The Writer

Meditation? Are you doing it right?

Yes you are, if it makes you feel peace and calm and serenity.

Look there will always be people who are 100% convinced that the only right way to do s*** is their way, and you better do it the same way. And I will be the first one to tell you not to spend time with those kinds of people, unless you must.

There are a HUGE amount of different types of meditations. I myself love doing mindfulness meditations or some type of guided meditations. But there are so many. Here is a few of the most common ones:

  • Transcendental Meditation: Rising above negativity, in a lotus position.
  • Heart Rhythm Meditation (HRM): Concentration on the heart and breathing. Is said to improve not concentration but also balance emotion and more.
  • Kundalini : Sitting in a lotus position. The goal is to breath through your energy centers; the chakras.
  • Guided Visualization: Visualizing what you want your feelings to be like, what you might want to be like yourself.
  • Qi Gong: Involves movement
  • Zazen: The goal is to stop judging your thoughts.
  • Mindfulness: being present in the moment, letting thoughts drift by but not getting stuck on them.

To read more about these visit: https://visualmeditation.co/7-types-of-meditation/

But even these might not be the right answer all the time. Maybe you feel so restless that sitting in one space for a long time, right now just makes you feel very anxious. Maybe if you try to force yourself into a certain type of meditation, you just feel like a failure. This is why I am writing this post.

Meditation is about letting go of everything but the present moment. In mediation there is no past nor future. Just right now. And that can be achieved with different ways, not just sitting like a flower on the floor.

I sometimes love to go on walks and listen to the nature and I feel more at peace and in the moment than any other time. I also love coloring an adult coloring book, because it is a mindless task to do, but you are still doing something while letting your mind wonder. For someone it might be going for a jog, petting a horse or something similar. And I will tell you right now, it is okay. Do not try to force yourself into something you aren’t comfortable with.

At the same time I urge you to not disregard mediation as some old “voodoo” thing, because it isn’t. Mediation is an extremely powerful and old method at calming the mind, body and soul, so do not just disregard the practice. Try doing it once in a while, and do not give up after one time. It takes time to master it, I haven’t mastered it even a bit, and I have been doing it for about 3 years now. But I have seen the benefits of it.  Try different ones and see what works best for you.

Thanks for reading and let me know what your favorite type of meditation is!

Xoxo,

The Writer.

How to relax and why?

Hello my lovely readers, I have been on a short, much needed break and now I am back inspired and ready to write. So let’s get to this posts topic; relaxation, de-stressing, calming your mind, battling anxiety and all that not so fun stuff that everyone of us goes through in some form. But we can make the process fun.

A disclaimer before I get to my post, everyone is different. What works for me might not for you and sometimes we have to tweak some things to fit our own needs, so do not take my words as the law but as a guidance towards the right direction, let’s begin!

  1. Calming scents:  There are many calming scents. Most we know, lavender, chamomile, Vanilla, sandalwood. For me the most relaxing scent is the fresh air right after rain, and there is actually scientific proof that this scent helps calm the mind. For more information visit this site: http://www.livescience.com/49520-smell-of-rain-aerosols.html. It is quite easy to incorporate these scents into your life. Candles, teas, aromatherapy and walks in the nature are just some that come to mind right away. More about aromatherapy here: http://www.aromatherapy.com/
  2. Relaxing by listening:  I find calming music, the sound of rain or thunder or just water (river, waterfall etc.), birds (real or on a play list),relaxes me extremely well. But also just sitting in silence can be healing for the mind. Just find what is the best solution for you at each given time.
  3. Habits to calm your mind: Sometimes you have to incorporate more than just one thing in order to find peace so I have great combinations for you.
    1. Take a nice walk in the nature while having some essential oil(lavender, chamomile, vanilla) on your wrists,  and the pulse points on your neck.
    2. Take a relaxing bath and read a good book, drink some tea or coffee (with no caffeine would be best.) . More about the therapeutic benefits of reading here: http://www.thereader.org.uk/media/72227/therapeutic_benefits_of_reading_final_report_march_2011.pdf.
    3. Meditate, there are amazing amounts of ways to meditate and I am a strong advocate to finding your own. I myself prefer to mix how I meditate. Sometimes if I find it hard to calm my mind I will listen to a meditation, so I can come back to the voice guiding me, but for example before sleep I like to do a mindfulness meditation, and I try to concentrate on my breath. I prefer this before sleep, because the voice won’t wake me up, if I accidentally fall asleep while meditating. (Which is perfectly acceptable, btw) For guided meditation you can go to YouTube and more information about mindfulness meditation over here: http://www.health.harvard.edu/blog/mindfulness-meditation-may-ease-anxiety-mental-stress-201401086967

There is so many more things you can do. The best way is to do your own research, I hope the links I have above help you get started. Get excited about your health. Relaxing and de-stressing is one of the most important things you can do for your health. A calm body and mind will keep your immune system working up to par. Thanks for reading, please comment  if you have ideas to add or what helps you relax ^^

xoxo,

The Writer