Health, Lessons in life

Concentrating on me…blog comes second

So I have been writing blogs on and off since I was like…. 17? And I like writing but I do not hold myself to a great standard and that kind of sucks… I mean for me to be a good blogger who advocated for personal development I should actually lead by example and to be honest I don’t.

I feel like a fake doctor writing the blog and talking about how to live your life but still not even doing so myself… And I think it is time for me to take a long long pause. And just concentrate on the things I can change in me and my life, one step at a time. Without this feeling of pressure of already needing to be there…

I will most likely once in a while write. But this blog is going to be a hobby mostly. Maybe I will pick it up soon again maybe it will take years time… maybe it will never be my thing again. But for now. Do not expect consistency I need to concentrate on my actual life goals right now and that is to improve my health, mental physical and spiritual if you will 🙂

Thanks for understanding

xoxo

Alisa

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Goals, Personal development

Time management and success +rambling

I will be the first the first to admit. That even thought I am interested a lot in personal development and searching for myself and all that. I have not yet mastered the art of being a good time manager and a successful student. Do not get me wrong, you don’t have to be an A+ student or 4,0 GPA student to be successful, but since my main “job” right now is studying, I would regard getting good grades to be one of the ways I would feel successful.

I, like many others am lazy, and I do not think with a broader vision for the future. Now don’t go clicking away. I swear I am working on it. And this post isn’t me laughing and saying oh but I am just lazy, what ever. This post is more to tell people that if they feel they aren’t on top of things, like everyone seems to be. Not to worry, cos they aren’t alone. And while I am not best at this, I do have tips up my sleeve. (Reminder: Only hard work will pay of, there is no secret formula)

  1. Know thyself. Look I will admit that there are issues like dyslexia and concentration issues and what not, but in the end appart for those, really it is just us. 5 different tabs open on your computer? Are you sure all of them are work related? Phone isn’t on silent because mom will call any minute? So if you don’t answer within an hour she will not let you live it down? You are writing an essay but you just have to answer that friend who is asking if she should wear the pink shirt or the white one, and now you must save her from eternal embarrassment. (Pink duh!) My point is, when you study/ work or anything else if you seem to be lacking time, analyse where it is going and if it really is out of our hands.
  2. Figure out when and how. When are you the most productive? For me it is around 9am–> (that is if I wake up at 6 as usually). For you it could really be in the evening. I don’t really care. Not in the rude way. But you work best when you work best. Any time is a good time to work, if you do it well. I do not believe that the only way to succeed is to be an early bird. The only way to succeed is to work your ass off.
  3. Calendar, organization and a system that works.  And here I am again admitting that I am giving advice that I don’t use 100% myself. I suck at prioritizing and when I organize things it usually lasts for a day or two. But it does help. Clear desk clear mind and all that really does work for me. I do clean up my space quite often. And when I do, I work 10 times better.
  4. Set realistic goals. My boyfriend, if he’d read this would laugh. I always make my goals too big or I have too many of them. Ever had a list of goals (or to-do’s) that looks a bit like this:
    1.  Wake up a 6  go for a 5km run. Eat something very healthy. Ab workout.
    2. Drink 3 L of water
    3. Re organize your whole room/house
    4. Dominate the world
    5. Read 8 books (Not a good to-do/goal list)
  5. Forgive yourself if you do not work as hard that day as what you wanted to. You won’t achieve anything by beating yourself over it. Trust me I know.
  6. Concentrate on doing the best you can. If you only reading one subject is the best you can for today. Then that is great at least you read that chapter. The important part is not to do anything at all. (Check out the Non-Zero method) Get better bit by bit. You will not become a superhero over night (Unless a radioactive spider bites you or some ish)

Being a hard worker and succeeding with what ever you do in life is a lifestyle. You have to learn to become a hard worker/good student/business woman/man etc. It takes hard work, especially if you have never been a hard worker/ inspired person before. You brain works in a loop of habits. You have to change the bad ones and that takes time and effort. But don’t give up. I know I won’t.

 

 

Health, Lessons in life, Personal development

Change

Some of you might have noticed that I have been away a while. I have gone through a lot of change in the last month or so, and well it is catching up on me.

A lot of people who I hold dear are moving to new cities or even new countries, and even though I do not plan on stopping contact or anything like that it is certainly different not to have these people just couple of kilometers away.

On top of that change I am back to school for the fall semester and oh boy did we dive right into the studying. Not that I didn’t expect it. But it was a bit overwhelming after the summer.

Anyway this post won’t be as deep as my post usually are, more just rambling. But I do want to remind people that change isn’t bad. It makes life go forward and at some point you will see that things probably actually went to better than what you thought they would go.

You will lose people you love but some will stick around tighter than glue. You will learn more and more about yourself and you will learn about life. And that is the most exciting adventure after all. Just living your life to the fullest and not letting life paralyze you.

I am saying all of this as a reminder to myself as well, not to lose sight of my goals.  I am feeling quite out of the place. Uninspired I guess to a degree. Because I feel like I am so confused and in the middle of a tornado of feelings. And that is the reason I haven’t been here.

The pause is about to come to end and I should post a normal post next Thursday as per usual. Maybe I will post a little something to compensate or lack of activity here 😉

Thanks for reading

-Alisa

Goals, Lessons in life

Who Am I?

We often find people online saying things like “I found out who I was this year” or “I have no clue who I am” and questions/ realizations like that. And I am one of those people who has been 100% sure I’ve figured out who I am at the age of 15, and I have questioned who I am for the whole year of 2016 (at the age of 20).

By the end of 2016, I realized we won’t really ever know who we are. After all, we always learn something new, until the day that we die.

Every day we are changed a bit. We read an article or book that moves us. We learn a new way to look at things, or we find out that our favorite color isn’t purple but turquoise, and in the end, those things are very small. But they change who we are.  And the best thing about this? It is totally ok. There is no shame in not knowing who you are.

Now, I realize a lot of people will misunderstand this. “If I don’t know who I am, how can I do anything in life?” And the answer is simple. You do what feels like the right thing to do, by the person you are today. Chances are it is the same thing as yesterday, and it will be the same thing tomorrow. But also not knowing what you want to do is ok. Then you just work hard at what life gives you right now.

For example, I study at a University of Applied sciences to become a management assistant. Do I want to do that for the rest of my life? Probably not, do I absolutely love studying it, nope, not really. But I got into the school, I love languages and I have an opportunity to study them there without becoming a teacher or a language researcher or something, so, I took the chance. Because I see that I am at least taking steps forward. I will try my best to learn everything the school offers me and enjoy the process of becoming smarter. I will have a chance to study for a semester abroad and I find that to be very exciting.

My point is you do not have to know who you are, to do something. I would describe myself as an artist, as I love writing, not just for my blog, but fantasy as well. But would I want to become a writer? I actually think I might. I don’t know what I want as my scale of success to be. Would I want fame out of it? I don’t know. But I write for myself and those who I can help, not to become famous. I love to think about life and the meaning of it and ponder how to make it better for myself. Am I a philosopher, not even close.

Who you were this morning is not set in stone. You do not have a contract signed with your blood. It is okay to not know who you are; if and only if, you work hard at making progress. When you make progress you gain more in life, you can do more in life, and even though you are always going to be a work in progress, at least you are moving on in your life. You aren’t stuck in your mind thinking “Who I am, What is my purpose.”  I can guarantee that you will never find the answer to that if you don’t do something and be happy about having the chance to figure out even more of what you do not know.

Thank you for reading! Be sure to leave me a comment of what you think? Does someone disagree? What is the hardest thing for you in not knowing who you are?

With love,

The Writer