Personal development

Jealousy; success killer

In this age it is so normal to have an opinion about everything. But does this opinion stem from something else except just “well I think this way”… perhaps jealousy?

More often than not I hear about how rich people are so selfish and if you have money then you sold your soul to the devil. If you look beautiful then of course you are shallow and you probably just got an operation done to enhance your looks. (If you have done an operation to enhance your look as long as it doesn’t harm you I don’t have anything against it)

But honestly, a lot of those people who have a lot of money actually do fight against every day issues. Leonardo DiCaprio is trying to fight against climate change iiSuperwomanii also known as Lily Singh is known to work for girls right (she also happens to have over 10 million subscribers on her platforms and is a millionaire and happens to be amazing)

Here is also a link to 30 most generous celebrities on Forbes.

My point is that just because you are rich doesn’t make you a bad person. Or if you look amazing or if you are famous or what ever it is that people feel the need to be jealous about…

The jealous are troublesome to others but a torment to themselves

William Penn

Money doesn’t make anyone good or bad. Money helps it show to others who you were before you got it. Selfish or not. Good looks don’t make you bad. A lot of beautiful people work hard in order to bring body positivity to the world.

Maybe people who talk about others in a negative, jealous way just want to be rich but they try to come up with excuses not to actually put the hard work required to become rich. It easier to say rich people are bad, because of course then you don’t need to work to become successful, who would inherently want to become a bad person?

The world as it is doesn’t have space for jealousy. If you want something go and work for it. Become a good successful person. You think of all people who are rich to be bad? Become the exception. But don’t let your jealousy and your excuses make you a bitter person. Because just like a successful person can be bad so can a poor/bitter person.

I would also like to add that those people who are extremely rich and are not interested in anyone else except themselves, who just harm others. They aren’t actually successful. Success is having a family, friends, health and great experiences in life. You can have those things without money. How ever you can’t buy loved ones with money, nor health. This is why I don’t ever think a horrible and selfish rich person will ever be actually successful nor happy.

I honestly think it would be a good thing to talk more about money. Not in the sense of I have this much and I can buy this many Channel products. But in the form of like here are all the good things you can get with money; you can take care of your family, you can help people achieve more things, you can have positive experiences that inspire you, you can study things and bring more value to others. You can donate to people in crisis, you can donate to hospitals. And yes, you can use the money on yourself as well, taking care of yourself, wanting good and wonderful things for yourself isn’t a sin. When you care for yourself, what ever that means to you, you can better serve others. As long as not everything is about you, money bad.

I honestly believe we will do way better as a nation if we just hate on people less. Instead of acting as if a mean tweet or youtube comment will change something, make sure we change the world with the way we live our lives. Like Tom Bilyeu always asks the people who he interviews ” What’s the impact you want to have on the world?” Ask yourself that and work on achieving it, instead of acting as if bitching about how someone has a Lamborghini and you don’t is unfair. Cos this might come as a shock… but life isn’t usually fair; but you can be.


Thank you for reading! I hope you resonated with what I had to say and I hope that now you can feel good about working hard to be successful. Just become the most friendlies, loveliest and caring billionaire in the world who gives a lot of extra value and care to the planet and the people.

xoxo, Alisa

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Personal development

5 things that you hate about you?

We are told daily to work on ourselves and to improve and develop. And I agree 100% on that. Personal development, constructing a healthy amazing you with great goals is amazing. It is what will make the world a better place, because better people make better communities and nations. BUT, where do you start with this journey.

Saying that I want to be successful or I want to be healthy and all those things are extremely large as concepts. So what should we do? I am all for being positive and loving yourself, but sometimes loving yourself is being about being a realist. So let’s be realists shall we.

What are the 5 things you hate about yourself ? For me currently the list would look like this:

  1. I am lazy; I often fail to push myself that one inch more
  2. I love to plan, fail to execute
  3. I talk more than I listen
  4. I don’t take good care of myself
  5. I’m negative

Everyone has their moments of laziness and it isn’t always a bad thing. Sometimes however it is the thing that makes you feel all icky and disappointing in yourself. Part of the laziness is that I get excited and I plan the shit out of everything and then I fail to act on those plans. I am sure many of you can see yourself in that.

I talk way more than I listen. And it doesn’t have to be a bad thing. But my goal in the future is to help people with their problems, whether it is in their personal life or work life. But in order to do that I must learn about them, their problems, as much as possible. The only way to do that is to listen.

I don’t take good care about myself. In order to be the most productive and healthy me I must eat healthy, exercise (I have been pretty good with exercise actually) and meditate etc. If I don’t do all of those things at least to a certain degree that helps me then I can’t reach my fullest potential. And this is hardly anything new. I know this very well I even have experiences of how I feel when I do “everything right” so why not do it?

I am negative. And I can hear you guys kinda laughing there and being like well we are reading your post/posts; we know you are negative, but bear with me. I don’t think that seeing your issues and working on them being negative. But I am quite often stuck in this idea of things not going my way and why is that person like that and why doesn’t our school make this work better. And that type of negativity isn’t really helpful because those are the things I currently can’t change. I can change myself and the way I react to things however.

Why should we think about these things? I personally thing it is way easier to start working on yourself if you know what is not working out for you currently. If I don’t like that I am negative, its way easier to figure out action steps to help with it (journaling,meditation etc) than just saying I want to be successful or I want to be a good person.

What are your 5 things currently, or even a couple. If you have something precise you want hints and help with, comment it down bellow and I will do my best to answer. As always thanks for reading

xoxo

Personal development, Spirituality

The Secret- Rhonda Byrne (plus rambling)

 

Hello, my lovely readers! I have been on a pretty long pause again and boy has there been a lot going on this fall. Oh boy oh boy oh boy!

The most exciting thing is that I have been better acquainted with the law of attraction. Thank you for The Secret by Rhonda Byrne. And if you don’t know this book or what it about hurry up and get it. It is amazing.

Now some of you might be a bit skeptical and not believe it as radically as I do. (But I have actually achieved a lot of things using the methods described in the book, so I have my proof if you will) But anyway. If you ask and believe you shall receive.

To the skeptics out there, it isn’t as out there as you might assume. People who believe in themselves and in their outcome are more likely to achieve those goals. They believe and that is why they see more of the options and solutions in case of problems. If you think you can’t do something you are less likely to try. And if you don’t think anything will work out, you are less likely to search for or notice solutions. The mind is an amazing tool we can use, now I choose to believe that it isn’t just the human who is in control of this but what you choose to believe is totally up to you.

Now to those people who were like, well I thought about wanting a tesla I didn’t get it, this is fraud. Did you actually believe you could have a Tesla? Did you just lay in bed and fantasize? Now visualization, imagining a future with the Tesla is great, but you won’t get it by just sitting around doing nothing. The universe works on energy, and is you don’t give any energy then why should you receive it?

I have a  huge amount of things I have learned this fall, not all fall into the category of spiritual so no worries to the readers who aren’t spiritual. But when I write thing I might use some spiritual “language”   just take it how ever you want to. And keep an open mind.

And I do not accept any form of discrimination, as long as you are a good person I don’t care about your race, religion, sexuality or anything else of the like. SO if someone can’t handle differences and variety they should probably stop following me.

Anyway happy manifesting to you all and hope to talk to you soon! Let’s start a conversation in the comments below!

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Yours truly,

Alisa

 

Goals

Self love for 2017

Daily we hear of how we are supposed to look like. I mean we are trying to get into the “everyone is beautiful” mentality and I think it’s great BUT I don’t think it is enough for the media to be telling us these things. I quite frankly do not like that we are all the time told that it is media’s fault that we feel that we aren’t beautiful enough.  I don’t think we can blame someone else for how we feel inside. If we are sure of who we are and we love ourselves the way we are, no matter what someone says we won’t start changing for their “personal preference”.

And let’s be brutally honest here, who is actually buying the gossip about who got implants and where and who is the prettiest woman on the planet in 2016.

We are the ones who buy magazines or follow articles about the new celebrities and their butt implants or botox or something of the sort.

Today those models who still work for the mainstream model industry could just all say no to the way they are treated, told not to eat or photoshopped to look like alien gods and goddesses. We have a lot of power if we unite our forces, but it is scary and sometimes seems impossible, but I personally think we make it seem impossible because it is easier to pretend that we can’t affect things.

Now I am a young woman from Finland and I feel like the pressure here to look “perfect” isn’t as bad as in warmer countries. We kinda have to look like penguins with all of those layers of clothes we wear during the cold season. (About 9 months out of the year). But even I have had my issues with how I look. Comments of you look ugly, you are too thin etc. from people who you are close with isn’t always easy to hear. Especially when you logically know that there is really nothing wrong with you.

But what if we, me and you and everyone just say fuck you to media. I’m not saying you can’t acknowledge that someone looks pretty. What I am saying that we don’t let that standard of pretty define us. I will never look like some supermodel. Not only do I like pizza too much, I just don’t have the same proportions to become one. And that is fine. I will also never look like Kim Kardashian, mostly because I do not have such money, but also because we have different parents and genetically will never be able to look the same.

So what we really should be doing is just realizing that we are beautiful ourselves. I for example love the fact that I have green eyes. I have a nice lithe body. I am not in anyway fit, but I am working on it. For health reasons not to gain bikini body.

So let’s all make this year about loving ourselves the way we are. Fuck the media. Fuck how everyone one else looks ( not in a disrespectful way to all of the beautiful people in world). 2017- The year or self love.

Sincerely,

The Writer

 

Personal development

Happy Fathers day


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Today the 13th of November we (at least in Finland) celebrate Fathers Day. In this post I want to tell all the fathers in the world a very happy and beautiful fathers day. I want to say good luck to all those who will soon become fathers 😀 You will need it!

I appreciate every single one of you fathers who have worked hard to open your heart to the little being that is your child. Thank you for picking us kids up when we fall. Thank you for being over protective. Thank you for being there for us even we sometimes do not realize that you really are here.

I want to tell all those fathers who are scared of being a dad; Don’t worry. You will mess up, there is no doubt about it!  The most important part is not to be perfect, the most important thing is to be there for us. It doesn’t matter if your child is 2 or 20. Just be there and give your love. Learn from your mistakes and give your all. In the end that is all that matters.


With a lot of Love,

The Writer