Personal development

How to unfuck your life with 3 easy steps

How ironic that I am writing this one week late… But this is a great time for me to discuss this topic from a very personal point of view (with a concrete exmaple) so, let’s start

I have just started an internship, I have a thesis to write and I want to spend time with friends and family, I just spent a longer weekend with my bf in Sweden…. and I want to learn new things. So let’s put it simply I am fucking overwhelmed. And this is probably one of the most usual reason for our lives going totally of the rails.

When we hear that someone has a “fucked up” life, we assume that a lot had to have happened. It can however just be that you have more things to do and you have no idea what to start with. Or it could be something bigger, but either way you can figure it out. Here are my 3 biggest tips.

Number 1

You need to write a HUGE ass list of everything that is in your head. What to buy, due dates, birthdays, gift ideas, work things, blog post ideas and so on. Don’t worry about the neatness, it doesn’t matter. You can categorize everything after it is first on paper.

Number 2

Organize the list you just made into 2 (or more) lists;

  1. List of things that takes 10 minutes or less to do
  2. The rests in an order of priority (If you have many different categorizes, you can have a list per category, with the priority tasks first on the list)

Number 3

This is a very very very hard thing to do. In fact this is something that most people fail in. This can be what makes, your breaks your success. You have to actually do the things on the list. For me usually it is easiest to do some of the task on the first list (10 min or less) because they are so fast to do. These could be like; organize your desk, send email with the question x. Call x, add the following dates to the calendar, etc.

After this I check the list of things I have in order of priorities (or if my life is really fucked up, I check multiple of those lists). I start with the ones that have to be done today or have to be done asap.

Bonus

Sometimes, like for me today. I started writing this blog post way before I did that brain dump clean up thing. The reason being. I am working tomorrow, and this blog should be up by Thursday afternoon (Imma be busy most of that) so this is priority task I don’t even have to mark into the list. It is ok to just start with the task. It is sometimes even better than to write pretty lists of things you will never do. Just saying.

Thanks for reading. What are you ways of unfucking your life? Maybe leave in the comments, so others get inspiration too!

xoxo, Alisa

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Personal development

Questions for yourself

We love to question the world. Why are there stars, how did everything start? What happens if I do this, and so on. But  I suggest that for now, slow down, and start questioning yourself.

I have been searching for myself for quite a while now. I continue to do so. And I have found that there are a couple of questions that when directed at myself, help me understand who I am and what I want better. I am still confused and lost and wondering around this planet feeling like there is so much to understand but it has gotten easier.

  1. How do I want to feel? This isn’t my idea. This idea belongs to an author and entrepreneur Danielle LaPorte. She coins this idea in her book The Desire Map. What the book is about, is finding out what your own core desires are. The feelings you want your goals to give you. I haven’t read this book yet, but from the interviews I have listened to, it makes sense. (The book is definitely on my to- read list)
  2. How do I want others to see me? This might seem to be counter productive, I mean it has become a boom to not give a flying f*** about what others say or think. But really if you want people to see you as a productive person, what can you do for that be productive. Would you want others to perceive you as productive and hard working if you didn’t want to be those things? Probably not. This doesn’t mean that you should do what others want you to do. But find out who you want others to see you as and you might find a couple of answers of who you feel you are.
  3. What are my thoughts, what aren’t?  Sometimes we mix our own thoughts with other peoples?. Not because they force us to agree on something, but simply because we don’t stop to thing if we agree or not. It is after all easier not to think. And then sometimes we are taught to think a certain way and we, later on, realize that that isn’t our thought or dream. For example, someone might be born into a family full of doctors. But they don’t want to be a doctor. But the follow the footsteps of the family because they feel they have to. But are they happy? Probably not.
  4. What are my limiting beliefs? Maybe your beliefs are something that you yourself have taught yourself to believe. Or it might be a joke that a friend of yours said at your expense but you believed them. No matter how you ended up believing in that idea make sure you stop doing it. I am not saying you can fly from a balcony if you just believe enough. But you can learn math, you can improve drawing skills, you can become more fluent while writing/speaking. Every one of those things requires hard work. But I am telling you, YES YOU CAN. And don’t dare tell yourself otherwise.

Thank you all for reading as always and let me know what you think.

Xoxo,

Alisa