Goals, Personal development

Life ends, did you exist in it or did you live it?

Just last week I wrote a blog about catching up with your goals. I know that this seems like something that is rather redundant. Yes yes, we should have goals and aspirations so what?

Simple, it has been proven that we are happier when we strive for something greater, better. This doesn’t mean that everyone has to strive to be a millionaire. I mean I wouldn’t say no to a couple of million. But I don’t think it would make me happy, if after that I wouldn’t have more substance to my life.

So this is why I ask a very somber question from you my darling reader. What have you done, before you die. 80 years will go past fast as fuck. There is no point to think of what if’s when you are on your bed. So why not think of what if’s now.

What if you won’t do anything now? What if the goal you have is almost reached but you give up right before it? What if you have so much potential in you but you deside not to do anything because you are too afraid? I am not saying you shouldn’t sleep, eat or rest once in a while. Going after your goals doesn’t mean hustle till you die. It means make sure your life is off substance, so that once you die, you won’t have to think of what if’s. You won’t fear death as much if you realize that it is actually your time and you did everything you could have to live a fulfilling life.

So, after reading this post, journal a bit. What if you would die today. What would you be proud of? What would you have to achieve in your life to be on your death bed and; “Greet death like an old friend”?

As always, thank you for reading. Don’t hesitate to start a conversation in the comments and don’t forget to check my socials πŸ˜‰

Xoxo, Alisa

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Lessons in life, Personal development

Feelings, those pesky motherf****

Feelings shape our daily lives and makes life sometimes so much more complicated that it should be. And that is why I say, kick your feelings to the curb.Β Okay, maybe not that far. They are an important part of who we are and they make relationships of all kind work. Do not become a robot, just because feelings aren’t always logical. But I would suggest to give limited control over your life to feelings.

Let me give a couple of examples when feelings shouldn’t come into the drivers seat. (But they have been for me too once in a while, so no worries, I ain’t one to point a finger at you, my friend)

  1. When your feelings tell you, that you don’t feel like doing that thing. Do not listen to it. This is when your subconscious mind is for a reason or another telling you not to do something. Sometimes its fear of what you might achieve, and sometimes its just plain laziness. Either way, don’t listen to that feeling. Because you will never feel like doing something, unless its like super fun. So get your ass in gear and go what you got to do.
  2. Do not let yourself feel like a failure, if you didn’t reach aΒ goal, or your grades weren’t as good as you wished etc. Look all of us feel like we aren’t enough once in a while and that is quite normal, means you do not have a unhealthy ego. But the thing is, if we let this failure mindset control our lives, we will never move forward and we will never try again. And that is a failure much greater than doing something wrong and learning from it.
  3. Jealousy. This one I think you can actually kick to the curb. I mean it doesn’t do anything to help you. Looking up to someone and getting motivated from that, that is great. But being jealous and wishing to get something by being negative about other persons success, that won’t lead you into the life of success. Hard work and consistency will.
  4. Fear. Do not silence it totally, because it Β could be useful when you are about to do something stupid. But do not give it too much power, because that will paralyze you.

Thank’s for reading, I hope to hear what you think about this post, and if you have something to add please do.

Xoxo,

-Alisa