Personal development

5 steps to a Miracle Morning

I personally am a morning person. I love waking up early and great the sunrise (well, during the summer I do, in the winter sun wakes up way too late for my schedule). First a disclaimer; you don’t have to wake up at 4 or 5 or what ever time the gurus say. But a morning routine, is going to get you into gear, even if you wake up at 12. Let’s get with the 5 steps!

The early morning has gold in its mouth

Benjamin Franklin

Step one – Give yourself time

How many of us have woken up just in time to leave in 30 min. We made the coffee, spilled it on our white shirt. Kicked the table and almost squished the dog. Why don’t you wake up so you have 1 hour at least to get ready. You can actually drink your coffee or tea calmly? Let’s start the day in a relaxed mindset. There is time to through of the balance later too

Step two – Prep in the evening

I am sure you have hear this. Get your clothes ready, prep your breakfast etc. This take away the stress of having to prep everything in the morning and gives less time for you to make mistakes and forget important things. I have a check list that I need to have completed every evening. Work keys, phone, car keys, food ready to go. Check, check, check. I’d rather check 5 times than to run back and forth. Which I have done. (This is quite a new part in my routine)

Step three – Exercise

I don’t have too much time in the morning to think about fitness. I start work at 7. So I wake up at 5 as is ( sometimes earlier) BUT what I do have time for is stretching. And couple of jumps and getting the blood going in my body. So I get the day started. Proper fitness is an evening thing for me. I also get a friend with me to make it more appealing for me to go 😉

Make the morning work for you <3

Step four – Attitude

I am just like anyone else. When the phone starts playing its alarm I want to smash it and throw it to Timbuktu. BUT I don’t. And I do a lot to get into the better mindset. Stretch. Breath deep in and out. Think of the good part of the following day. You get to listen to good music, you get to see your fabulous work team, you get to listen to the book on your commute. Or maybe give some scritches to you your pupper? All good reasons to get up. You will always find some shit in your life. Try not to search for it on purpose. It will find you on its own.

Step 5 – Time it

This sounds dumb. But honestly see how much time it takes for you to do all of the things you need/want to do. An example of a timetable would we; Hygiene 10 min. Makeup 10 min. Breakfast 15-20 min. Meditation 10 min. Getting dressed 5 min. Organize room and check everything is with you 10 min. All in total is 65 min. This is the time about that you need for your morning routine. For someone it could be 1.5 hours, for someone 45 minutes. Take what you need, and disregard the rest. Make it yours. A miracle morning is only a miracle if it works for you. Make sure it does!

All in all, it isn’t hard to plan it. Now you need to stick to it. What is your morning like? Do you wake up early or late?

Here are some links to my past blog posts to help you reach your goals! 4 things to do, to make your next 6 months a success, Gamify your success, 5 steps back

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Personal development

Changes Changes Changes!

I always make sure I keep changing things up. Whether it is my room or my style a bit or my blog. Now I haven’t made any visual changes because I actually quite like it. My goal at some point is to take my own pictures for my blog, but that I know will happen at some point.

What has changed now: “Drum rollllll” is that I have a Facebook group for us life changers! I love love love the idea of many people talking about books read, goals achieved and life changes they are planning on making/ or have made. I just find the energy in that so freaking positive and uplifting I can’t even begin to explain my excitement. This how ever doesn’t work if you guys don’t get into the groove as well. Let’s build our own little community (and big one day) that help each other reach their dreams and goals.

I have often felt like I don’t really have this community for personal development with people who have the same goals. So if you feel the same and want to surround yourself with like minded people come and hit me a like! Here: ChangedLife365

There are also other links to my social media and to the Facebook page that you find in the upper right corner. Go and follow and let’s have communities there as well! Can’t wait till we grow as a community and share out thoughts and ideas with everyone.

Warning n.1 This page is a safe place for everyone. No matter your sexuality, gender, religion, race etc. As long as you don’t try to push any other agenda apart for personal development, we are all good.

Warning n.2 This page is not a pity party. I don’t think it serves anyone to talk about how everything is going bad and how change is hard. Ofc it is. Your brain works against you, your circumstances might be shit and the idea of getting up from bed sucks. But if you are expecting me to just tap you on the head and say I understand… this is not going to be the place for you (sorry) You must really be serious about change.

Can’t wait to hear from all of you! And hope we get a bomb ass conversation started! Good luck to all on your journeys and lets share it others who are just as determined!

xoxo

Goals, Lessons in life, Personal development

How to change your life: Challenge 3/5

Do you suffer from that pesky little nagging 5-year old voice in your head that says; “But I don’t feel like it” Buy these pills to shut that little brat up….

Well not quite. But let’s try get some perspective shall we. Why is that voice even bad to have?

Let us go way way back. If our ancestors would have lived their lives with the “I don’t feel like it” mentality we would literally be instinct. Imagine how that would work with a wolf running after you and your family or with needing to harvest the crop but “I can totally do it tomorrow” And then tomorrow comes and you realize that the frost killed off the crop… Well, that went well…

And I know that this idea doesn’t work in today’s society because you can literally ask food to be sent to you by uber… but is that really the life you want to live. The issue that I noticed with this idea for myself was that my life was so so so boring. Go to class, check the phone for most of that class, get home be on the computer for most of that time, eat and go to sleep. If you have a due date then just work for 1h like crazy and send a meh text to the teacher… And then the same next day and next week and so on.

But what if you don’t do it that way? What if you actually do everything on time and when you do things you do them with energy?  I haven’t mastered this. BUT I did start doing more things this fall. I seriously worked on forcing myself to participate in things and got to meet new people and gained some serious opportunities. It didn’t really take that much. I mean sure we had to work for example with the volunteer project we had making the event and all but what I gained out of it was so much more valuable than the work I put in.

If you want to check more about this idea of just killing of the phrase “I don’t feel like it” you should check Mel Robbins. She also has a great TED talk on how to stop screwing yourself over:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Lp7E973zozc

The thing is also that even if you just decide to not do something, you will have it on your mind all the time. Even if just a little. You can’t relax properly. And sometimes you can get away with it. Like if you are sick or if you really have so much to do but if you don’t have that 30 min bath for yourself then you’ll literally hang yourself (Please never let yourself get that far into a burnout)  then you can actually justify having a pause. But if the pause 24/7 just because you don’t feel like doing something, it won’t do you any good.

Let’s see if this way of thinking about it helps;  If you would give yourself a stress grade of 50 on writing that essay right? That would be if you’d just do it right now. This is without waiting at all.

  • Let’s give each day that you don’t do it, but it’s on your mind a stress grade of 5.
  • After ten days that ends up already being 50.
  • Then if you write that essay under time pressure because you have to give it in tomorrow as you waited way too long. That means you have a stress level of 90 because you have to write it NOW. So 50 + 90= 140. That is 90 stress levels more than necessary.
  • Add into that the stress of after because you know you didn’t do a good job so each day you wait if you failed the essay you have a stress level of 20. Waiting for a week would give you 140 extra stress points.
  • All together 280…. instead of the 50 that you would have otherwise had. That is a LOT of stress, that you just don’t need.

So write into your calendar a block of time when you will do it. I will talk about calendar blocking more in the future. But in short, the idea is this. You choose a block of time. Say, from 10 to 12 you do a task. Let’s keep the essay as an example. One block could be research then the next day the block could be making an essay plan and then the day after that actually writing the essay. If you cut the process of writing an essay into manageable pieces you might even lower the stress grade of 50 to way less because you realize the task isn’t as daunting and horrible as you thought.

One last thing, (I swear I will stop bothering you with this soon) if you keep just postponing it and then do it all under pressure and stress, you will be able to tell yourself “See I knew it this would be horrible, I never want to do it again. I will always leave it for the last second so I don’t have to think about it”. That idea is stupid of course because you just made it horrible for yourself because you left it for the last minute. But that doesn’t register and then you are in a vicious cycle.

So just go and do it!  Whatever it is you have right now.

Leave a comment to let me know if I made any sense and like if you like. Don’t forget to follow and see you in my next post 🙂

xoxo, Alisa

Goals

How to change your life? Challenge 1/5

I have been on a journey to change my life for a while now. I have been conscious that I have to change this to be happy when I was 18ish. I have been trying to do it on and off. Now I am 22. And I still haven’t really achieved the change in me that I would like to see. BUT I have learned a thing or two.  I believe there are many reasons why you don’t reach your fullest potential and here is a list of 5. I will first explain what the issue is and then how to solve it.  I’ll write a blog post separately for each. 

Here is why you don’t succeed:  1) Not believing in myself 2) Not surrounding myself with motivated people 3) Falling into the trap of I don’t feel like it. 4) Trying to change too many things at the same time and thus failing at all of those things, and lastly 5) Thinking about how to/ planning to do things instead of taking action.

Reason 1 – You do not believe in yourself: 

How is this an issue? When we don’t believe that we are capable we often make excuses not to do things. “Well, it won’t work anyway”. Or we try a bit and then get tired and then feel like we aren’t “up for it”. But did we actually try our hardest? Or are trying to live up to our own expectations of imminent failure?

How we communicate with our selves is a huge part of how we act as well.  But how do you begin to believe in yourself? Especially if your goal is big and you’ve “failed”  at it before?

Tip 1: Celebrate small victories. Notice when you make progress, even if it small progress. Let’s say you want to lose weight. And today you didn’t eat anything unhealthy? Give a pat on the back. Maybe even write it down. After that maybe 21-60 days if you repeat that you are actually forming a new habit thus changing your life.

Tip 2: Keep a list of things you have actually done in that day. Make sure that at least 2 things on that list are something to do with your goal. Let’s stay with losing weight example. Those two things could be; not eating junk and going for a walk. If you have done those two things on the list; then you are absolutely on the right track.

Tip 3: If you fail on one day, do not dwell on it. Write a note to yourself saying something nice. Don’t make any excuses though. You failed and that is fine don’t sugar coat it but also don’t beat yourself over it. If within 60 days you slip up once or twice it’s all fine, but if you stop trying totally that means you have given up.

Tip 4: Keep a diary/write a journal prompt of all the things you have achieved, even the small things. Feel good about those achievements and after that make sure you use that joy to fuel your future goals.

In concultion, you have to build trust within yourself that you can do it. One or two small steps at a time. It isn’t something that you will always succeed at. That is why even when you fail you have to be kind (but firm) with yourself. At some point when you look at the list of things you have achieved (including the things you didn’t even remember because you never looked back), you will realize that you have actually done quite a bit.

Goals, Lessons in life, Personal development

5 things I’ve learned while trying to change my life

Since I have been working and I have 2 summer courses to do (Due date is 01.07) I have not been writing. I really need to get the hang of writing in advance and just scheduling the post for later. Something else to add to my “To improve” list. But let’s start with today’s topic, shall we?

Some weeks back I wrote a blog post about wanting to change my life in 365 days. Try to work on bettering everything I can, for those 365 days. I hope you guys have jumped on the journey with me. (If you haven’t read the post yet here it is; https://changedlife365.net/2018/05/12/change-my-life-in-365/)

About 1,5 months ago I decided that I want to work on myself for every day of the year. To commit to improving who I am. I have been realizing some things along the way.  So what have I learned?

  1. You can’t try too many things at once. I knew this before. It is something I have struggled with before. It just has been emphasized while I have been trying to work on the things I am working on right now. If I wake up at 5 which is my goal, I won’t resist chocolate that day. One big decision in a day, that is all my brain can handle. And it is just going to be either or for now. It doesn’t mean I have to have only the 5 am as a goal for the whole year, but until it becomes easier, changing something else that requires a lot of self-discipline will have to wait.
  2. Not all those things that I thought will be good for me are going to work. It is ok to let some goals go to the graveyard for goals (there are a lot of them buried there, let us have a silent moment to all of those good intentions.) For example; meditating the moment I wake up. NOT possible, at least not right now, because I just fall back asleep. Sure I am probably relaxed and maybe even present while I sleep but since I am not aware of it. There is no point.
  3. Goals shouldn’t be there because they make sense to others. I have people around me (mostly family) who think that waking up at 5 is crazy. Why wouldn’t you rest? But I mean I do rest…I just go to sleep earlier. But my point is that you can’t make everyone see your point. That doesn’t mean that there isn’t one. I have noticed that I am more productive and feel better when I wake up at 5. I don’t know if it is psychological or I am just a morning person, but I don’t even have my afternoon slump when I wake up early.
  4. You won’t succeed every day. That doesn’t mean you should give up. While my post is called changing my life in 365 days that doesn’t mean I will be perfect on all of those days. The only thing I promised is that I will do my best to work on myself for the next year with a commitment. Apart from that, no promises. I have had those days that I have just been meh. Somedays have started well but ended meh. And some the other way around.
  5. Time goes slow and fast at the same time. I made the Change my life in 365 posts on May 12th and now that I started to write this blog post I felt like it was half a year ago and almost like there was no point on working on that “challenge” anymore. Then I checked the date and realized it has been about 1,5 months and that is not that long at all. Yet in that time have had time to work already almost a month at the job I currently work at and also have projects due in a couple of days and it seems I just started them. Time is such a relative concept. I should probably write about that too one day. Anyway, my point is to try to not think about time while trying to make progress in such big things like changing your life. It takes time and effort but even if you fall off the tracks once in a while that isn’t the main point. Getting back on them is the important part.

Hello, my fellow Lifechangers! I hope you like this post and that it helps. If you want to see similar posts please like and follow and I mean I really like comments too… 😉

xoxo

-Alisa

Personal development

Make a decision and stick to it

I know what you are thinking. Thanks Alisa, that helped a lot. I sure as hell didn’t think you could have said anything more basic. And to that I will say, chill my friend. Just stick along and for what I have to say.

I am currently reading a book by Anthony Robbins; The Giant Within. Technically I am listening to it but you get my point. I am just starting up, but I am now in the part where he speaks about making decisions and how the choices we make can impact our whole life. But he makes a distinction between just a choice to see how things go and making a conscious decision to work for something. He goes as far as to state and we are so un used to making decisions we get lazy with it. That is why making a difficult important decision is so hard. And this got me thinking, how long I have lived my life in a way of just letting the current take me where it wants to.

What is Robbins idea for making our decision making muscle grow? Practice of course. Start making small decisions and sticking with them. You can do a big and a small decision just to see how it feels. And practice until you making a life changing decision won’t seem like “Oh well, but I wouldn’t be able to do that anyway.” Hell yeah you can, if you chose to do it.

I haven’t gotten further in the book, but I assume that Tony will talk about this at some point. I will still mention this as a thought. It isn’t enough to decide that I want thing A or I want to reach a million followers or what ever it is that your goal is. I would assume that a real decision requires action. You decide to do everything in your power to reach that goal, that idea, that step in your life.

How would this look in practice? I would think that not only do you decide what you want to do you make decisions on how to make it work and take action. Let’s try to see with an example shall we.  Let’s say you want to be a business owner:

  1. Decide what business you would want to own. Personal Development? Helping people find their missing relatives? What ever it is, just chose that.
  2. Decide to research the crap out of that topic. What type a business should it be. How much money to invest. How to market this project.
  3. Decide and make a email list, to whom you tell about this opportunity. (Beneficial if they are your targeted audience.
  4. Decide to invest, and do it.
  5. Start making daily decisions that make it possible to work on your business. If you are broke and investing right away isn’t a choice, make a decision to find a job to help pay for your dreams.
  6. Baby steps, even small decisions can have a big impact.

As always thank you for reading. If you have read the book please let me know what you thought  and if you want to read the book or listen to it you can find it online 🙂

-Alisa

Personal development

Questions for yourself

We love to question the world. Why are there stars, how did everything start? What happens if I do this, and so on. But  I suggest that for now, slow down, and start questioning yourself.

I have been searching for myself for quite a while now. I continue to do so. And I have found that there are a couple of questions that when directed at myself, help me understand who I am and what I want better. I am still confused and lost and wondering around this planet feeling like there is so much to understand but it has gotten easier.

  1. How do I want to feel? This isn’t my idea. This idea belongs to an author and entrepreneur Danielle LaPorte. She coins this idea in her book The Desire Map. What the book is about, is finding out what your own core desires are. The feelings you want your goals to give you. I haven’t read this book yet, but from the interviews I have listened to, it makes sense. (The book is definitely on my to- read list)
  2. How do I want others to see me? This might seem to be counter productive, I mean it has become a boom to not give a flying f*** about what others say or think. But really if you want people to see you as a productive person, what can you do for that be productive. Would you want others to perceive you as productive and hard working if you didn’t want to be those things? Probably not. This doesn’t mean that you should do what others want you to do. But find out who you want others to see you as and you might find a couple of answers of who you feel you are.
  3. What are my thoughts, what aren’t?  Sometimes we mix our own thoughts with other peoples?. Not because they force us to agree on something, but simply because we don’t stop to thing if we agree or not. It is after all easier not to think. And then sometimes we are taught to think a certain way and we, later on, realize that that isn’t our thought or dream. For example, someone might be born into a family full of doctors. But they don’t want to be a doctor. But the follow the footsteps of the family because they feel they have to. But are they happy? Probably not.
  4. What are my limiting beliefs? Maybe your beliefs are something that you yourself have taught yourself to believe. Or it might be a joke that a friend of yours said at your expense but you believed them. No matter how you ended up believing in that idea make sure you stop doing it. I am not saying you can fly from a balcony if you just believe enough. But you can learn math, you can improve drawing skills, you can become more fluent while writing/speaking. Every one of those things requires hard work. But I am telling you, YES YOU CAN. And don’t dare tell yourself otherwise.

Thank you all for reading as always and let me know what you think.

Xoxo,

Alisa

Health, Lessons in life

Frustration

Some of you, scratch that ALL of  you know this feeling. It is this knife turning in your gut, reminding you daily that you are not where you want to be. That no one understands you. You are all alone. The blog isn’t catching off as you would like and your instagram isn’t looking the way you want it to. Your beach body is more like the whale on the beach (please don’t think that you are awesome!) and why didn’t I get A* from that exam? I am sooooo stupid. There is this misconception that for everyone else who was trying to make something of themselves, it was easier, faster that they have something that we don’t.

And of course, most of us know logically, that there is no secret recipe. There is not formula for short cut to success. But still, there is thing nagging voice at the back of your head, laughing at you and making small comments on how you are so slow, and who the heck are you kidding, you can’t even write a full on sentence without at least 2 mistakes. You a blogger? Eh, what a joke! 

But in the world of success, no matter what success looks like for  you, there really isn’t the right way of doing things is there? I mean unless of course you do nothing. But there is no set time limit for success or learning something new. The only thing that is rushing us is well ourselves. We are discouraging ourselves by looking at these pictures on Instagram or videos online. And everything is soooo neat and crisp and clean and put together and I am not like that at all- what is wrong with me?

Let me tell you what is wrong with me, and do not worry I have this exactly same issue. YOU keep rushing, you keep expecting magic to happen where it isn’t supposed to happen. You are comparing someone on level 500 to your level 5. You are looking at everything  else except your own journey. And that will make you suffer. It will make you cry and it will make you feel empty inside. Because you assume that things should be easy.

And we all know life isn’t easy. It isn’t fair. It isn’t just rainbows and sunshine, come one, there can’t even be a rainbow without rain (too cliche?). Look I know you won’t listen to me, heck do not listen to me. But I hope you at least take something away from me writing this, because I write this truly from the bottom of my heart, (just as much for me as for you). Let go of expectations! Work hard. Try your best and that is what will make you success. Sure you can look up to people, but do not end up staring so much you miss your own journey.

What hinders you the most in your journey to success or bettering yourself? Please let us know in the comments and don’t forget to share ^^

With a lot of love,

The Writer