Personal development

5 things that you hate about you?

We are told daily to work on ourselves and to improve and develop. And I agree 100% on that. Personal development, constructing a healthy amazing you with great goals is amazing. It is what will make the world a better place, because better people make better communities and nations. BUT, where do you start with this journey.

Saying that I want to be successful or I want to be healthy and all those things are extremely large as concepts. So what should we do? I am all for being positive and loving yourself, but sometimes loving yourself is being about being a realist. So let’s be realists shall we.

What are the 5 things you hate about yourself ? For me currently the list would look like this:

  1. I am lazy; I often fail to push myself that one inch more
  2. I love to plan, fail to execute
  3. I talk more than I listen
  4. I don’t take good care of myself
  5. I’m negative

Everyone has their moments of laziness and it isn’t always a bad thing. Sometimes however it is the thing that makes you feel all icky and disappointing in yourself. Part of the laziness is that I get excited and I plan the shit out of everything and then I fail to act on those plans. I am sure many of you can see yourself in that.

I talk way more than I listen. And it doesn’t have to be a bad thing. But my goal in the future is to help people with their problems, whether it is in their personal life or work life. But in order to do that I must learn about them, their problems, as much as possible. The only way to do that is to listen.

I don’t take good care about myself. In order to be the most productive and healthy me I must eat healthy, exercise (I have been pretty good with exercise actually) and meditate etc. If I don’t do all of those things at least to a certain degree that helps me then I can’t reach my fullest potential. And this is hardly anything new. I know this very well I even have experiences of how I feel when I do “everything right” so why not do it?

I am negative. And I can hear you guys kinda laughing there and being like well we are reading your post/posts; we know you are negative, but bear with me. I don’t think that seeing your issues and working on them being negative. But I am quite often stuck in this idea of things not going my way and why is that person like that and why doesn’t our school make this work better. And that type of negativity isn’t really helpful because those are the things I currently can’t change. I can change myself and the way I react to things however.

Why should we think about these things? I personally thing it is way easier to start working on yourself if you know what is not working out for you currently. If I don’t like that I am negative, its way easier to figure out action steps to help with it (journaling,meditation etc) than just saying I want to be successful or I want to be a good person.

What are your 5 things currently, or even a couple. If you have something precise you want hints and help with, comment it down bellow and I will do my best to answer. As always thanks for reading

xoxo

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Goals, Lessons in life, Personal development

5 things I’ve learned while trying to change my life

Since I have been working and I have 2 summer courses to do (Due date is 01.07) I have not been writing. I really need to get the hang of writing in advance and just scheduling the post for later. Something else to add to my “To improve” list. But let’s start with today’s topic, shall we?

Some weeks back I wrote a blog post about wanting to change my life in 365 days. Try to work on bettering everything I can, for those 365 days. I hope you guys have jumped on the journey with me. (If you haven’t read the post yet here it is;Β https://changedlife365.net/2018/05/12/change-my-life-in-365/)

About 1,5 months ago I decided that I want to work on myself for every day of the year. To commit to improving who I am. I have been realizing some things along the way.Β  So what have I learned?

  1. You can’t try too many things at once. I knew this before. It is something I have struggled with before. It just has been emphasized while I have been trying to work on the things I am working on right now. If I wake up at 5 which is my goal, I won’t resist chocolate that day. One big decision in a day, that is all my brain can handle. And it is just going to be either or for now. It doesn’t mean I have to have only the 5 am as a goal for the whole year, but until it becomes easier, changing something else that requires a lot of self-discipline will have to wait.
  2. Not all those things that I thought will be good for me are going to work. It is ok to let some goals go to the graveyard for goals (there are a lot of them buried there, let us have a silent moment to all of those good intentions.) For example; meditating the moment I wake up. NOT possible, at least not right now, because I just fall back asleep. Sure I am probably relaxed and maybe even present while I sleep but since I am not aware of it. There is no point.
  3. Goals shouldn’t be there because they make sense to others. I have people around me (mostly family) who think that waking up at 5 is crazy. Why wouldn’t you rest? But I mean I do rest…I just go to sleep earlier. But my point is that you can’t make everyone see your point. That doesn’t mean that there isn’t one. I have noticed that I am more productive and feel better when I wake up at 5. I don’t know if it is psychological or I am just a morning person, but I don’t even have my afternoon slump when I wake up early.
  4. You won’t succeed every day. That doesn’t mean you should give up. While my post is called changing my life in 365 days that doesn’t mean I will be perfect on all of those days. The only thing I promised is that I will do my best to work on myself for the next year with a commitment. Apart from that, no promises. I have had those days that I have just been meh. Somedays have started well but ended meh. And some the other way around.
  5. Time goes slow and fast at the same time. I made the Change my life in 365Β posts on May 12th and now that I started to write this blog post I felt like it was half a year ago and almost like there was no point on working on that “challenge” anymore. Then I checked the date and realized it has been about 1,5 months and that is not that long at all. Yet in that time have had time to work already almost a month at the job I currently work at and also have projects due in a couple of days and it seems I just started them. Time is such a relative concept. I should probably write about that too one day. Anyway, my point is to try to not think about time while trying to make progress in such big things like changing your life. It takes time and effort but even if you fall off the tracks once in a while that isn’t the main point. Getting back on them is the important part.

Hello, my fellow Lifechangers! I hope you like this post and that it helps. If you want to see similar posts please like and follow and I mean I really like comments too… πŸ˜‰

xoxo

-Alisa