Personal development

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What to do during quarantine?

Quarantine is a hard time for all of us. Some of us are lucky, because we are healthy and we have homes, food etc. Some of us are less lucky. I personally believe that we should use this time for our advantage, and no this is not this #hustle post. Tho it deff has those elements too. But please don’t let yourself be bored now, just be more active in coming up with ideas, don’t wait till someone else plans things for you.

5. Mental health/spiritual things to do during quarantine:

  1. Meditate
  2. Go on a walk (this is if you are aloud outside, we are in Finland. Please do this alone and keep your distance to those walking at the same time. We have forests, so that helps 😉 )
  3. Sleep well. Now that you don’t have to commute you have extra 30 min – 1h to sleep.
  4. Journal your feelings
  5. If you have other spiritual practices then do them now.

5. “Fitnessy” things to do during quarantine:

  1. Go on a walk (refer to the point in the section above)
  2. Do some type of a challenge. YouTube has a lot of different 7 days challenge for example
  3. Yoga, a simple form of exercise to do at home, again YouTube has great resources
  4. Eat healthy. It is so easy to order in now. Challenge yourself not to eat junk now. Esp if you move less than usual.
  5. Drink water. Especially if you are working/studying at home, you don’t really have an excuse not to drink water

5. Things to learn/do during quarantine

  1. New languages; any one you fancy. You can even use online chat services to have a study partner
  2. Crafting skills, make cute cards, write pretty letter. Now with social distancing these methods are a great way to still stay connected
  3. Write the book, blog, song etc that you have been planning on for ages
  4. Start watching videos on the topic that you are supposed to study currently but don’t understand when your professor explains it in online class.
  5. Read books you wanted to read but “never have time”

5 Fun things to do

  1. Watch a movie; have themes for movies; movies with history basis, sci-fi, romantic etc. Make it so you watch something you usually wouldn’t.
  2. Have a series marathon; use the same methods as with movies
  3. Have a personal dance party, either with family, on your own, with your partner. Have fun!
  4. Have a pamper routine, shower or bath.
  5. Play a game online with friends, like trivial pursuit over skype or even an online game

Please add your own ideas in the comments below! Stay safe and healthy and remember to call the friend/family member once in a while.

Thanks for reading, until next week!

-Alisa

How and why make quarantine your bitch!?

We are in quarantine yes, it sucks BUT: Let’s make quarantine our bitch Here is how:

We have extra time, now that we aren’t commuting, that we don’t have to drive, that we don’t have to prep for going out/seeing friends, going to hobbies. We have it and we can use it, to innovate solutions for our business’, to improve ourselves, to learn skills that will be useful after this pandemic is over. We can’t just sit and wait and once its done be like oh wait I’m not prepared, I didn’t know we would move forwards from this?!

Morning routine tips by yours truly

We can always use our circumstance as an excuse or as a motivator, which will you chose? I chose to make quarantine my bitch 😀

I chose to learn during my free time. I use books on Scribd; an audiobook service and Skillshare that is a learning platform. You can use Youtube, documentaries, book extra work your teachers gave you. Anything that works for you.

Don’t get me wrong I still have my work. BUT I don’t have to drive to work now, I can concentrate on tasks at hand so I get things done faster. I can use my lunch break to listen to an audiobook or a skillshare class. And since I don’t see people in the evenings I can use that time for learning too. (Study tips by me 😉 )

Here are some tips and ideas on how to make quarantine our bitch. It doesn’t matter if you spend the extra time learning new skills, exercising or even just innovating how to keep your kids busy during the day ;D

  1. Don’t wait for motivation. This will only lead to disappointment and stress. You wait and you wait, till finally, you end up realizing it isn’t coming and you need to cram shit right away. (or you realize quarantine is over and you gained 10 pounds instead of losing them) I get it. With quarantine school is different/work is different and it may seem like you have more time, and you do in away. But even this time can be wasted.
  2. Rewards tasks that are automatic. E.g. cleaning your room, making your bed, going for a walk. Not tasks that require creativity. If you are expecting a reward, you won’t think outside the box as you will want to see the fastest solution to your problem, not the effective one.
  3. Just because everyone is home now (unless you live home alone like me) doesn’t mean you can’t have boundaries. Tell your siblings you will be studying from 9-12 and from 1 pm-5 pm or however ever your timetable is organized. If you work from home, tell your kids to concentrate on their tasks and once you all are done you can play a game/watch movie, etc. (Or innovate other ways to keep them busy… I know kids don’t just listen simply because you said so :D)
  4. Do extra things that you couldn’t normally do. (ESPECIALLY IF YOU LIVE ALONE), sleep in a bit longer so you can have a more productive day since you have no commute. Drink coffee on the balcony because you have time. Go out on a walk/jog in the morning. Read a book. Listen to an audiobook while doing work that doesn’t require much concentration.
  5. Set a goal to learn the thing you wanted to learn in a week. Set a goal to start at home yoga. Set a goal to be able to do 100 pushups because you have the time to practice. Whatever it is that you wanted to do before but said you couldn’t because you were so busy…. well you don’t have that excuse. And if you are a parent, incorporate kids into this goal. For example, if your goal is push-ups, make your kids work out with you in their own way. Or do the pushups while you watch a movie with the kids.

If you have a hard time focusing read this blog post by James Clear on Focus. It’s a mind-opening read.

Motivation comes from action, so don’t think you will be more effective and become a super productive person by waiting. You can either whine about this Corona thing, and how it is ruining your social life or you can take what it offers you. Time and a chance to concentrate without distractions of parties or hobbies etc. Chose 3- 5 extra things you want to spend your time on, mark them in the calendar. Stick to them. You can make these family goals if it is hard to find time all alone to do them.

Hope this quarantine time isn’t driving you crazy, and since most people while that they have nothing to do; here are some links to different resources that will give you something to do Let’s make quarantine our bitch 😉 :

Skillshare No I am not sponsored, I do however get a free month if you end up purchasing the recourse. (This is their way of spreading their platform ;))

Scribd – Also not sponserd, by I find most of the books I search for from here and it only costs 9 bucks per month for unlimited audiobooks, books and journals as well as some extra perks that you get to use for free for as long as you are paying for scribd.

Youtube- You can find great recourses here, not just Pink Panther, but things you learn from… shocking I know.

People, use this time to learn from your parents, watch interviews, read books and so much more. You have an hour or two of extra time. You can fit so much into those that you can’t even imagine! Good luck and stay healthy 😉

I am not asking you to be delusional in these scary times, but please keep the positivity and hope in your hearts. Let’s show corona who the boss is<3

– Alisa

You choose to have a shit day!

(Disclaimer… this doesn’t apply to you if you are suffering from a mental illness but even if you are I am 100% sure you can get some take away from this post)

Or to have a great freaking day! Either way it is your choice. And yes, even if you house burned down, even if you are suffering from a loss of a loved one and any other reason you might have for having a bad day/week/life.

Everyday we have up to 80 000 thoughts….most of which are autopilot thoughts like “I need to go to bathroom, it is raining again, why is that kid screaming” etc. For the brain it is better to have autopilot thoughts most of the time because imagine if you would actually pay attention to every single fleeing thought… yeah you would drive yourself nuts.

But you still kind of do. And you can choose not to. Now don’t get me wrong this is not to say you can’t have negative thoughts ever. It doesn’t mean you shouldn’t feel sadness, anger or frustration ever. That wouldn’t be healthy and it’d mean you are suppressing your emotions. That isn’t good either. What I mean is this:

If there is traffic, instead of going on and on about how much it sucks, just accept it. “There is traffic today, the good side is I get to listen to my music/audio book etc for longer. I’ll just let my boss know.”

I know this will feel harder if the situation that has got you angry/sad is bigger, like losing a loved one. And while you should 100% mourn and feel sadness, (if you don’t either that loved one was a horrible person or you are)…. but what you can do is remember the happy memories you shared, think of the fact that they would want you to have new happy memories even if it is without them and so on. (Note, I am not saying it is easy… however, it does get easier)

When ever you have a negative thought you can turn it around, it doesn’t have to me anything big, nor does it have to be unrealistic. If your parent died you don’t have to the next day be like “I am the happiest person alive”… you shouldn’t be.

Evolutionary we have been built in a way that makes us see everything from a lens of “Is this a threat”. Thanks to that we have survived very well until now. Most things in our lives aren’t a threat. No tigers, bears and venomous snakes haunting us at every turn. So we can relax and try to turn our brains towards the light.

Here are some tips to improve your way of thinking:

  1. Journal 3 things that are well in your life, it can be list form, just words or actual paragraphs.
  2. Visualize your day going well. Don’t think of what could go wrong, but more on the lines of if everything went perfect; how does that look?
  3. Catch your thoughts, even if you have already thought “Damn the traffic” you can turn it around “The traffic sucks but I can listen to the audio book now!”
  4. Seek people who don’t always talk negatively. This is SO HARD. I mean there has been so many times that I have talked with friends like let’s stop the negative whining. “If you can change it, change it, if not change your attitude”. When its a habit it is hard sometimes. It is possible tho, and if those friends who you have aren’t really worth the effort and they don’t want to change, you might have to find new friends.
  5. Find help… if you are stuck and you see no light at the end of the tunnel…if you are depressed, please talk to a professional. Personal development helps, but you might need that push/that helping hand to help you out of the gorge.

The fact is, everyday there is something to look at and this wow this sucks… and also wow this is amazing. It is your choice which option you spend your energy on.

I hope this helps and good luck for the spring. I know the situation in the world doesn’t really make anything easier 😀

Best regards,

Alisa

Why finding your purpose kinda doesn’t matter?

It is 2020 and you have all this energy to learn what you want to do for the rest of your life? WHY? Well everyone talks about purpose and their life missions and blah blah.

I bet that most of the people who have figured out their life purpose have changed it a bunch of times, or figured it out only after 40 or maybe even only realized what their purpose was when they were retired and had time to reflect on their past. I also bet that the people who have known what they want to be at the age of 5 are rare as fuck. (Let’s be honest we can’t all be doctors, pirates, princesses or astronauts…. real life sucks, to be honest)

So why finding your purpose isn’t that important?

  1. When you spend your time trying to find something certain you usually ignore everything else. You get tunnel vision. Like if you search of a fallen earing you probably don’t see all the dirt on the floor, not cos it doesn’t exist. But because you just concentrate on the earing. If you can’t see anything else except what you assume is your purpose (whether it is because people said you are good at it or because your parents want you to be a doctor) you probably won’t see the other options.
  2. If you only want to figure out the end goal you don’t enjoy the process of getting there. I did my internship as an office assistant… is it my dream job? No… is it my purpose for life? Probably not… but I’ve had some of the greatest experiences in that job. And I learned a lot about myself and my interests during that time! So go out there and experience things!
  3. Life purpose for many is something that they understand only at the end of their lives (and usually there were more than just one). And honestly, I assume that most of us don’t want life to end at the age of 20 or 25 or even 70. So why worry about something that you can learn and understand only at the end of the journey? Enjoy the process… don’t stress so much.

You aren’t off the hook tho!

Now don’t get me wrong. You should still have goals and passions and pursue them. Just don’t over analyze them. Having a goal to have an experience rich year is just as good as having a goal to become a doctor or to learn to skate. Whatever you learn this year about yourself and what you like, will take you closer to figuring out what you want to do… for now. And in 5 years you could learn it has changed. That is life.

Live your life.

I hope you guys have a great 2020!

MOCKING- 1st short story​

It isn’t the laughter in the room that mocks you…nor the fingers pointed at you. Not the looks, not the glares. No, what mocks you is far more sinister. It is a deeper kind of monster. They don’t know that his monster exists. Not until it is too late. For whom though no one ever knows until the end. 

The monster lives inside of us, if we let them. They point out all of the mistakes we have made when we try to rest at night. It points out all of the imperfections we see when we look into the mirror. It plays on repeat the laughter. It plays on repeating the words. Shows us the fingers. But soon, it isn’t their fingers we see… but our own. 

The mocking gets louder and louder. The scenes more and more ugly. We become more and more ugly in the mirror. We resent ourselves. We start mocking ourselves. This is the danger of said monster. This monster that lurks deep inside out subconscious mind. This monster makes it feel like everything is our fault. Or their fault. It is good at finding a culprit. Anyone but the monster itself. 

The issue with this monster is…whom ever he chooses is the culprit will be the victim. In life or death it matters not. Weather you die or they die, it matters not. Because the mocking has to stop. The laughter, the pointed fingers, the ugly image in the mirror has to be shut off. The film needs to be cut. And the monster shows you how. But in the end… even in the very end… the mocking doesn’t stop. It only stops if you are strong enough to tell the monster off.

It only dies, if you stand up for yourself, no more mocking laughter, no more repeating films inside your mind. 

Once in a while the monster tries to come back. 

To peek, to break you. 

To make you hate yourself…or them. For the monster doesn’t care as long as hate is involved. It doesn’t care as long as pain is involved. The monster fake helps you shut the mocking up. Actually making the mocking louder. 

In secret, if you let him, he will turn everything inside out and lull you into a false sense of security and you will never know what hit you…. and nor will anyone else. But one day you will lie in the cold cold ground and know that the time you spent listening to the monster you spent being mocked by it. 

I used to write more when I was a kid… I loved  writing about darkness and lightness alike. I don’t know why I stopped. However now that I am back at it again I would love your opinion 🙂 

 

– Alisa 

 

Communication skills are the key to success!

The risk of communication is that it is “lost in translation” which is most likely caused by lack of skills in communication. Lack of communicating or ineffective communication can break relationships, it can cause huge distress to others and it can even harm people beyond your wildest beliefs (e.g. bullying)

But communication isn’t just verbal or written, it is
also about how you say something and the body language you use. Verbal communication
is more than just the words, it is also the tone of voice you use. Written as
well is way more than just having sentences strung together.

There is no risk of becoming a too great of a
communicator. No one will ever come up to you and say, “You made your point
entirely too clear!”  

Remember while communicating

  1. Communication is a two-way street. It isn’t enough for you to be a good communicator. You have to also be a good listener and even a greater detective. Here is why; Listening gives you clues to how your message has been received, does the person sound defensive? Do they have a relaxed or tense stance? Are their arms crossed? Did they lock their jaw? What could you have said to make them frustrated? Was your point to make them react in the way they did?
  2. No one is a great communicator right of the bat. I mean we are born lumps of flesh that can’t do more than cry. We need constant help and attention. Sometimes we even are enabled to communicate in a bad Not to point fingers at anyone but letting your kid get the candy in the store just because they yelled and screamed and you want them to shut up, isn’t a good way to teach a kid to communicate. While kids have to be kids there has to be some type of a hint for them that hissy fit isn’t a communication skill anyone appreciates. (Let’s not forget that a lot of adults have their versions of hissy fits too) We need to constantly remember that we can and should improve and it doesn’t happen by osmosis… we need to make an effort to learn.

Key Pillars of Communication

  1. Plan your communication

What are you trying to say? Are you giving feedback? Is there a chance you will offend the person? What are the world choices you might need to reconsider? For example, when giving someone feed back (in the form of criticism) we often do it a) when we have had enough and we just burst out and say something really harshly (or write it). b) we often start accusing; you never, you always, why can’t you ever do what I say. It always starts with a you and it makes a person feel attacked. Change the way you communicate to be more about yourself not the person you are talking to.

How to do this? For example, like this: “I have noticed that I need a bit more guidance in these 3 things. Could you give me directions that are even more clear?” This way we start from our needs and the other person doesn’t feel attacked. They feel like with a change of action they can improve something for you because you need it not because they suck. (Of course, there are some people who just never accept any type of suggestions or criticism. Avoid those people at all cost if at all possible)

2. Time your communication smartly

Don’t start talking to a parent about their bad parenting skills when their kid decided to run away. Don’t tell your partner they suck in bed during a fight. Don’t start giving feedback to someone about them when they are doing it to you. (even if all is actually true) Timing is often everything and quite often we communicate to defend or even offend rather than to resolve. It is also a sign of our insecurities when we defend/offend. Here is a my post on confidence. Make sure that when you speak or write it is proactive and not reactive.

3. Be present while communicating.

It is so easy to not actually listen to what the other one is saying. I do this and so does everyone else. Especially with phones being there all the time. But even when social media isn’t the culprit there are many other ones. We are thinking of what we want to say next, we get annoyed about something the other person said and we tried to keep it in but actually we are just having a monologue inside our own minds. (Go check out my Attention blog post)

Be present, that way you can be a good detective and
learn more in the situation than you ever could have just by talking.

I will get back to talking about communication skills soon for couple of reasons:

  • We live in a world where we use words to start fights, even wars. The strongest weapons we have are words and I want us to use them to generate peace not war
  • We communicate with ourselves a lot and end up hurting ourselves more than anyone else hurts us. This hinders our progress in personal development because we end up not trying anything in the fear or failing, not only in front of others but especially in front ourselves.
  • Communication is a key for great well being at work. We need to be able to have clear instructions on what we need to get done and what others need to get done for us. Lack of or bad communication can cause misunderstandings, fights and lead to unnecessary stress. You should communicate to your employees, your co-workers your clients and everyone else in a clear way, in order to save time, resources and build trust between people. This is a great way to improve well being.

More on all of these topics later; don’t hesitate to comment about communication in general or if you want to read something specific related to it.

Thanks for reading as always! See you next time 😉  

Here are some recourses for you, in order to work on
communication:

Back to Basics:
Communication 101

Charisma on Command: BLOG and YOUTUBE

Types
of Communication

Communication
Theory

How To
Never Run Out Of Things To Say In Conversation

Ready or not!

Sometimes life is just a series of unknown events that just attack you from behind. You can’t prepare and you aren’t aware … and that is ok. Ready or not …. take the chance!

The thing is that often times we can learn to expect the unexpected and even plan our lives around the unexpected. Let me explain. In short there is only one thing that is sure after your birth and that is that one day you will die. No matter if you see this as a good, bad or a neutral thing, it is the truth. So everything else in the mix is unclear. What jobs you have, who are your friends, will you marry how many kids (if at all) you will have, etc. All is unsure. BUT there are ways to make things more sure:

If you want new experiences, even if not 100% sure what, search for them. Even if you feel you aren’t ready. Talk to people, ask them about projects etc. If unsure, usually just jumping ahead is a great way to figure out if something is for you or not. A lot of lessons were learnt that way for me. Not all of them were nice lessons, but life lessons rarely are nice.

If you are scared, then you should really do it. Now don’t get it twisted. You shouldn’t ever be the type of scared where you feel someone is following you but you just see how things will turn out. Like guard your life ofc. However sometimes just jumping and seeing how it will go is a good strategy 😉

All the things you will achieve in life are going to be behind hard work. That is also something that seems to be as certain as death. Ofc you get lucky sometimes. But even luck has a funny way of showing up when you make an effort.

This year has been a roller coaster ride for me. Stress with studies (I got my diploma finally yaaaay) A work place I love is soon coming to an end and there are new opportunities ahead (I will tell more once everything is more clear!) But nothing would be going as it has, if I just would be laying in bed wondering what to do next. Just take the step and then the next and little by little your path will light up… and after a while you might find out that you path is changing and that part is the beauty in life, you never know how things will fold out.

Ready or not here I come

Sincerely: Life

Hope you liked these thoughts from me and I hope I will get to write to you guys soon. I have missed updating… life has just been…..hectic 😀

Write your life live your life

Living our lives without any type of plan is almost impossible. We have to plan our studies, or how to get food on the table, how to get a job etc. But what if you have no idea what it is you want to achieve in your life? I use journaling to help me with this issue. Here are some topics you can write about and hopefully achieve some clarity from them.

  1. If money, time and obligations wouldn’t be a thing what would you do? Is there a way to incorporate this into your life around your other obligations?
  2. If you would die in a year, what would you regret the most not doing?
  3. What books hit your heart and how could you incorporate what you learnt in them into your life?
  4. What did you love doing as a child, and could you still do it now?
  5. What things do you hate about your life, and what can you do to get rid of them or lessen their affect on it.
  6. What 10 things should you do more on a weekly basis.
  7. Open ended; just start writing without any goal or objective, write your feelings you thoughts our worries your happy ideas everything that you hand gets onto the paper. See if there is any answers that you didn’t even know that you were searching for.

This is a small but sure way to get some clarity. You can spend your Sunday for example thinking and writing while listening to calm music.

As always thank you for reading and hope you enjoyed the text. Don’t hesitate to comment and see you again in a week 😉 Ciao!

Multitasking- a threat or an opportunity?

  1. Introduction
  2. What is multitasking?
  3. What are the threats of multitasking
  4. Is it also an opportunity?
  5. Conclusion

Introduction

I have been searching for work for a while now, and I have realized this one expectation that many recruiters have, they want someone who is effective at multitasking. I have lived in a belief that multitasking is a myth and wrote on LinkedIn, that I feel like multitasking isn’t a good expectation to have. Many people agreed with me, yet many didn’t and this is why I decided to dive deeper into the whole multitasking world. What is multitasking? Is multitasking a threat or an opportunity?

What is multitasking?

Multitasking when speaking about humans, is when we do many things at the same time. This could be cooking, trying to take care of your kids and answering an email or what ever your life forces you to do.

What are the threats of multitasking?

Despite being well meaning, multiple studies have noted that multitasking can hinder ones productivity and isn’t actually as effective as expected. Some studies like 2009 Standford Univeristy study by Clifford Nass shows that multitaskers were actually less organized. It was harder for them to see the crucial details compared to non crucial ones. Another study (Bryan College) found that peoples productivity suffered from trying to multitask costing up to $450 million per year.

The issue with the concept of multitasking, is that people believe that they are actually doing more than one task at the same time, which isn’t possible. The brain needs to switch from task to task which requires quite a lot of effort. Mostly this is an issue if you are working on something hard. Since as we know certain things we can do at the same time, talk and walk, breath and move our hands etc.

The benefit or negative impact that multitasking has on productivity is subjective and depended on the task at hand

Rachel Gauthier

The issue comes when we try to force our brain to do many difficult things at once. “Multitasking can hurt efficiency for couple reasons: It takes time to switch between gears, and the process of switching ‘working sets’ of information can lead to errors and mistakes. Being efficient at multitasking really means trying to make those costs as small as possible”. Bob Schafer, VP of research at Lumosity states.

Bryan Collage study also has noticed millennials changing platform to platform up to 27 times per hour. There has been proof of even IQ lessening by 15 points during cognitive tasks and even emotional intelligence and brain density suffering. This for me is at least not surprising. I recognize the need to check one thing then think of another and so on.

Multitasking at a café
Photo by Andrew Neel on Unsplash and Quote from Times article

Now some argued in my comment section on LinkedIn that there is no such things as concentrating on one thing 100% and that certain jobs like working at a café or bar could require you to multitask. And this is true, however, I would also argue that is the more different task one person has to keep track of at once the more mistakes there will be. For example: a barista has to make a cocktail for 10 people they would have way more risks in making a mistake than if they only have to serve 3 people. Also making 10 cocktails that are all the same will be way easier than to to make 10 different ones. On top of all this if you know the cocktails well its easier to do it as if automatically, rather than something you have never done before. Same thing in a café while making lattes. Or being a baker and waiting for the batter to rise while you decorate the cake. There is a reason why we have alarms and reminders set. So we actually remember to do things we are “doing” at the same time.

The neuroscience has proven over and over again that we thrive of doing one thing at a time. Only 2.5% of people can multitask effectively. Not only is multitasking mentally exhausting it could be potentially life threatening (e.g. texting and driving). While multitasking we lose out attentiveness, we hinder our learning and we lose our mindfulness.

Remember this the next time you’re tackling two tough tasks simultaneously.

 CYNTHIA KUBU AND ANDRE MACHADO 

Is multitasking all bad?

This is a matter of perception. What do we count as multitasking? For example is taking notes and listening to a lecture a task or two? We can apparently form tasks better if we thing we are multitasking, because we make more effort to not make mistakes. Those who see taking notes and listening as one easy task, don’t do as well on it.

While this idea doesn’t take away the countless research done before on the negative effects of multitasking (the actual one where we try to do too many difficult tasks at once) it does show that the idea of multitasking can be motivating. And I actually have seen this in myself too. I love the idea of being efficient and for someone reason we live in a society that has romanticized multitasking.

In conclusion

So? Multitasking- a threat or an opportunity?

Unless a task is automatic, like breathing and driving a car or walking and talking, it most likely will cost us in our productivity if we try to force it to work with other tasks. This is why at least for me, if I drive somewhere unknown and I need to see where to make a left turn, I will stop talking (but not breathing). If someone asks me to write an essay and give a speech at the same time, I won’t be able to do it.

I will however be able to make meeting notes while listening to the meeting. I will be able to write myself a reminder to do some other task after I’ve completed the one at hand. I’ll be able to answer a question while doing something …kinda, technically I will have to stop the task at hand and answer the question and get back to it. (See, multitasking seems to be a myth)

I would argue that word multitasking is just wrong for what we try to explain with it. We need to come up with another word to explain that we can do many things intertwined with each other, and the more they are similar to one another the better.

Recruiters, I hope that by multitasking you mean the capacity to write a post-it note for a task that you need to do right after you written an email to someone. Because in that case, I also am great at multitasking! It better not be the idea that someone can write two emails and have a phone call at the same time. Cos then, sorry but our paths don’t cross, and honestly that’s sad cos I do love working hard and I would be a great addition to your team.

You do you boo

If you think you can multitask and you honestly feel you need to in order to be happy, successful, etc. Be my guest, and if you actually are a great multitasker, I am just a little bit envious of you. But if everyone who reads this says they are… then I’ll call bs, cos 2.5% of the population isn’t much…

As always thanks for reading! Hope you liked this post. It was slightly different than what I usually write. Don’t hesitate to comment!

Here is a link to a post about things you should stop right now….multitasking should be on the list 😉

5 steps to a Miracle Morning

I personally am a morning person. I love waking up early and great the sunrise (well, during the summer I do, in the winter sun wakes up way too late for my schedule). First a disclaimer; you don’t have to wake up at 4 or 5 or what ever time the gurus say. But a morning routine, is going to get you into gear, even if you wake up at 12. Let’s get with the 5 steps!

The early morning has gold in its mouth

Benjamin Franklin

Step one – Give yourself time

How many of us have woken up just in time to leave in 30 min. We made the coffee, spilled it on our white shirt. Kicked the table and almost squished the dog. Why don’t you wake up so you have 1 hour at least to get ready. You can actually drink your coffee or tea calmly? Let’s start the day in a relaxed mindset. There is time to through of the balance later too

Step two – Prep in the evening

I am sure you have hear this. Get your clothes ready, prep your breakfast etc. This take away the stress of having to prep everything in the morning and gives less time for you to make mistakes and forget important things. I have a check list that I need to have completed every evening. Work keys, phone, car keys, food ready to go. Check, check, check. I’d rather check 5 times than to run back and forth. Which I have done. (This is quite a new part in my routine)

Step three – Exercise

I don’t have too much time in the morning to think about fitness. I start work at 7. So I wake up at 5 as is ( sometimes earlier) BUT what I do have time for is stretching. And couple of jumps and getting the blood going in my body. So I get the day started. Proper fitness is an evening thing for me. I also get a friend with me to make it more appealing for me to go 😉

Make the morning work for you <3

Step four – Attitude

I am just like anyone else. When the phone starts playing its alarm I want to smash it and throw it to Timbuktu. BUT I don’t. And I do a lot to get into the better mindset. Stretch. Breath deep in and out. Think of the good part of the following day. You get to listen to good music, you get to see your fabulous work team, you get to listen to the book on your commute. Or maybe give some scritches to you your pupper? All good reasons to get up. You will always find some shit in your life. Try not to search for it on purpose. It will find you on its own.

Step 5 – Time it

This sounds dumb. But honestly see how much time it takes for you to do all of the things you need/want to do. An example of a timetable would we; Hygiene 10 min. Makeup 10 min. Breakfast 15-20 min. Meditation 10 min. Getting dressed 5 min. Organize room and check everything is with you 10 min. All in total is 65 min. This is the time about that you need for your morning routine. For someone it could be 1.5 hours, for someone 45 minutes. Take what you need, and disregard the rest. Make it yours. A miracle morning is only a miracle if it works for you. Make sure it does!

All in all, it isn’t hard to plan it. Now you need to stick to it. What is your morning like? Do you wake up early or late?

Here are some links to my past blog posts to help you reach your goals! 4 things to do, to make your next 6 months a success, Gamify your success, 5 steps back