Lessons in life

A rant: Which truth is more true?

I love watching youtube and I love social media. I love people and I love long talk with people. But some things bother me, but especially this one: Assuming that one person knows the whole truth about everything.

I notice this pattern online. Someone says something at it resonates with some people, and someone says something that contradicts it, and the first thing they do to the person who dared to have a different opinion? Attack! (This is SPARTA).

I mean yes, if someone is on purpose being mean and evil then, of course, you have to step in and say something, and maybe even if they aren’t mean, leaving a comment with your opinion isn’t bad. But when we go into personal things like ” You are just ugly and jealous and you don’t get this and the other person has more followers so they must be right” then that’s just plain stupid.

I notice that most often it is just best to not say anything if you aren’t 100% sure you don’t come off as rude. The thing is, no matter how much you tell your opinion online, there will ALWAYS be someone who disagrees, and that is not always a bad thing.  Disagreeing is a gate for discussion, not always does it lead to anything good but sometimes it does. You have to be the judge of the situation, though, and think if it really is important to prove yourself to be right.

And sometimes even if you know you are right, then it’s smarter to just walk away. Some conversations are just never going to end and will suck the life from you, when someone “knows” something, no matter what you say will change their mind. So just save your breath and have a discussion with someone who can teach you something or who is open to being taught. In the end, you can not get through a wall if there is no weak spot in it.

Live and let live, not all arguments are to be won and you don’t always have to be right. Sometimes there can be multiple truths and sometimes it doesn’t matter what the truth is. As long as you are confident in what you believe in and that makes you happy (and doesn’t hurt anyone else) then just continue believing in what you believe.

For the love of what is holy, please get off your high horses people, really, chances are we are all wrong.

-The Writer

Lessons in life

A rant; Trash

I have a lot of stuff. I have so much stuff that I do not need that I don’t always remember what I even have. I have clothes I don’t wear and I have a lot of stuff I could give away or sell. I am not a hoarder but over time there are just things that accumulate and somehow they just stay around. And  I bet most of you can relate. But this isn’t really my issue right now, though its certainly an important thing to remember and I have it on my to do list to lessen the amount of crap I have.

My issue is the total disregard for anything we own. The disrespect we have for money and the amount of trash we produce every year. For example have some of you noticed the videos on Instagram that are “so satisfying” but then they are just about cutting a phone up, or dropping it from X high building or shooting 7 phones to see if the bullet goes through the 8th one. Yeah, there are those types of people. And I am not even talking about trashy phones, I am talking about really expensive I phone. Not that it’d matter in the end because my biggest concern is the amount of waste, problematic waste that produces. It isn’t like they are cutting up a flower that will later on turn to dirt. No it is metal and plastic, and if its properly broken or cut apart can those parts even be used again?

Even if those phones would be given to the video maker for free. Or they would be faulty ones that would go to the trash anyway, those videos teach people something very dangerous. We do not have to care or take care about what we own, because it is replaceable. And that thought that idea is dangerous, not because it wouldn’t be true to an extent but because we are already abusing our planet, we already have so much stuff we don’t need and so much we throw out every day, that the attitude that we can continue doing that with no consequences is dangerous. And very sad.

I feel sad that kids these days don’t even feel sorry for breaking their phones because they know they will get a new one. I feel sad that some people find it satisfying to just break and damage stuff that another person with less privileges can’t even imagine ever having. If you have so much money to just throw away, then throw it at someone who needs it. Invest in your education or business, do not trash our already dying planet.

I am not a hardcore activist. I have a phone and I have stuff I don’t really need, just like all of us do. But to on purpose, without any thought or regret trashing our planet, adding to the already drastic changes that our planet is having, is immature, sad and just plain neglectful of our future generation as well as the animals that live here. So please for the love of our future, this planet or what ever you actually find dear, think before you break something, think before you add salt to the wounds of this planet. Haven’t we done enough damage?

Goals, Lessons in life

Who Am I?

We often find people online saying things like “I found out who I was this year” or “I have no clue who I am” and questions/ realizations like that. And I am one of those people who has been 100% sure I’ve figured out who I am at the age of 15, and I have questioned who I am for the whole year of 2016 (at the age of 20).

By the end of 2016, I realized we won’t really ever know who we are. After all, we always learn something new, until the day that we die.

Every day we are changed a bit. We read an article or book that moves us. We learn a new way to look at things, or we find out that our favorite color isn’t purple but turquoise, and in the end, those things are very small. But they change who we are.  And the best thing about this? It is totally ok. There is no shame in not knowing who you are.

Now, I realize a lot of people will misunderstand this. “If I don’t know who I am, how can I do anything in life?” And the answer is simple. You do what feels like the right thing to do, by the person you are today. Chances are it is the same thing as yesterday, and it will be the same thing tomorrow. But also not knowing what you want to do is ok. Then you just work hard at what life gives you right now.

For example, I study at a University of Applied sciences to become a management assistant. Do I want to do that for the rest of my life? Probably not, do I absolutely love studying it, nope, not really. But I got into the school, I love languages and I have an opportunity to study them there without becoming a teacher or a language researcher or something, so, I took the chance. Because I see that I am at least taking steps forward. I will try my best to learn everything the school offers me and enjoy the process of becoming smarter. I will have a chance to study for a semester abroad and I find that to be very exciting.

My point is you do not have to know who you are, to do something. I would describe myself as an artist, as I love writing, not just for my blog, but fantasy as well. But would I want to become a writer? I actually think I might. I don’t know what I want as my scale of success to be. Would I want fame out of it? I don’t know. But I write for myself and those who I can help, not to become famous. I love to think about life and the meaning of it and ponder how to make it better for myself. Am I a philosopher, not even close.

Who you were this morning is not set in stone. You do not have a contract signed with your blood. It is okay to not know who you are; if and only if, you work hard at making progress. When you make progress you gain more in life, you can do more in life, and even though you are always going to be a work in progress, at least you are moving on in your life. You aren’t stuck in your mind thinking “Who I am, What is my purpose.”  I can guarantee that you will never find the answer to that if you don’t do something and be happy about having the chance to figure out even more of what you do not know.

Thank you for reading! Be sure to leave me a comment of what you think? Does someone disagree? What is the hardest thing for you in not knowing who you are?

With love,

The Writer

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