Personal development

Changes Changes Changes!

I always make sure I keep changing things up. Whether it is my room or my style a bit or my blog. Now I haven’t made any visual changes because I actually quite like it. My goal at some point is to take my own pictures for my blog, but that I know will happen at some point.

What has changed now: “Drum rollllll” is that I have a Facebook group for us life changers! I love love love the idea of many people talking about books read, goals achieved and life changes they are planning on making/ or have made. I just find the energy in that so freaking positive and uplifting I can’t even begin to explain my excitement. This how ever doesn’t work if you guys don’t get into the groove as well. Let’s build our own little community (and big one day) that help each other reach their dreams and goals.

I have often felt like I don’t really have this community for personal development with people who have the same goals. So if you feel the same and want to surround yourself with like minded people come and hit me a like! Here: ChangedLife365

There are also other links to my social media and to the Facebook page that you find in the upper right corner. Go and follow and let’s have communities there as well! Can’t wait till we grow as a community and share out thoughts and ideas with everyone.

Warning n.1 This page is a safe place for everyone. No matter your sexuality, gender, religion, race etc. As long as you don’t try to push any other agenda apart for personal development, we are all good.

Warning n.2 This page is not a pity party. I don’t think it serves anyone to talk about how everything is going bad and how change is hard. Ofc it is. Your brain works against you, your circumstances might be shit and the idea of getting up from bed sucks. But if you are expecting me to just tap you on the head and say I understand… this is not going to be the place for you (sorry) You must really be serious about change.

Can’t wait to hear from all of you! And hope we get a bomb ass conversation started! Good luck to all on your journeys and lets share it others who are just as determined!

xoxo

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Goals, Lessons in life, Personal development, Spirituality

New way of Goal Setting

Ages ago I stumbled upon a fascinating youtube interview between Marie Forleo and Daniel LaPorte. In case you are interested in taking a peak; the video is here: Goal Setting.

Instead of the basic goal setting that we are accustomed to; lose weight, travel the world, gain x amount of money. What this interview dives into, are the feelings you get when you achieve something you want. So instead of lose weight you would say you want to feel sexy/beautiful/confident. Instead of having x amount of money you want to feel free/secure/abundance. And you goal, is to achieve that feeling, not the tangible amount of money or a six pack.

Why should it be the feeling you go after? Well x amount of money that you assume is going to make you happy, might not make you happy. Usually people assume that they need way more than what they actually need. Maybe you are able to be very comfortable with a 100 000 a year instead of the million you thought. 100 000 a year is still 8, 333 thousand per month. That is definitely something you can live comfortably with. And you having a million probably wont make you that much happier. It might even just cause you stress, where to put that money, what if your friends are there because you are rich etc. etc. etc.

What about feeling sexy instead of having a six pack? Well, maybe you wouldn’t feel sexy with a six pack. Maybe you prefer the flat belly, or a little bit of more curves. As long as you are healthy and you feel sexy, that is the most important goal. That is what you should concentrate on.

So now, there is a bit over a half a year left. Instead of living your life by achieving things. Achieve feelings. How do you want to feel when 2020 rolls around the corner. It is much easier to find motivation in feeling happy, content, excited and full of life, rather than x amount of money, a job that pays well or a body that doesn’t even feel like yours anymore.

Thanks for reading! What are your feeling goals for the next 6 + months?

P.S Happy belated Easter!

Xoxo

Personal development

5 things that you hate about you?

We are told daily to work on ourselves and to improve and develop. And I agree 100% on that. Personal development, constructing a healthy amazing you with great goals is amazing. It is what will make the world a better place, because better people make better communities and nations. BUT, where do you start with this journey.

Saying that I want to be successful or I want to be healthy and all those things are extremely large as concepts. So what should we do? I am all for being positive and loving yourself, but sometimes loving yourself is being about being a realist. So let’s be realists shall we.

What are the 5 things you hate about yourself ? For me currently the list would look like this:

  1. I am lazy; I often fail to push myself that one inch more
  2. I love to plan, fail to execute
  3. I talk more than I listen
  4. I don’t take good care of myself
  5. I’m negative

Everyone has their moments of laziness and it isn’t always a bad thing. Sometimes however it is the thing that makes you feel all icky and disappointing in yourself. Part of the laziness is that I get excited and I plan the shit out of everything and then I fail to act on those plans. I am sure many of you can see yourself in that.

I talk way more than I listen. And it doesn’t have to be a bad thing. But my goal in the future is to help people with their problems, whether it is in their personal life or work life. But in order to do that I must learn about them, their problems, as much as possible. The only way to do that is to listen.

I don’t take good care about myself. In order to be the most productive and healthy me I must eat healthy, exercise (I have been pretty good with exercise actually) and meditate etc. If I don’t do all of those things at least to a certain degree that helps me then I can’t reach my fullest potential. And this is hardly anything new. I know this very well I even have experiences of how I feel when I do “everything right” so why not do it?

I am negative. And I can hear you guys kinda laughing there and being like well we are reading your post/posts; we know you are negative, but bear with me. I don’t think that seeing your issues and working on them being negative. But I am quite often stuck in this idea of things not going my way and why is that person like that and why doesn’t our school make this work better. And that type of negativity isn’t really helpful because those are the things I currently can’t change. I can change myself and the way I react to things however.

Why should we think about these things? I personally thing it is way easier to start working on yourself if you know what is not working out for you currently. If I don’t like that I am negative, its way easier to figure out action steps to help with it (journaling,meditation etc) than just saying I want to be successful or I want to be a good person.

What are your 5 things currently, or even a couple. If you have something precise you want hints and help with, comment it down bellow and I will do my best to answer. As always thanks for reading

xoxo

Fitness, Health, Personal development

Nutrition and productivity

Have you noticed that on some days you are supper productive and efficient. You get an amazing amount of tasks done and you feel like you are on top of the world? But to balance those days out some days you have a feeling that a sloth could get more done and you are no smarter than an amoeba….sound familiar? For me too.

There are many reasons why you might have an unproductive/ sluggish day; lack of sleep, dehydration, lack of exercise. Then what we will concentrate on today; bad nutrition. Now before you start to attack me with your (pitch)forks, I would like to mention that your meals can be generally healthy and you still could be feeling like a blob. And if you can honestly say that you are healthy with your diet, hydration, sleep and fitness and you still feel bad; please contact a doctor. Heck contact them anyway. But for those people who can’t honestly claim even 90% healthy habits, this post is for them. (ME)

why you might have an unproductive/ sluggish day; lack of sleep, dehydration, lack of exercise. Then what we will concentrate on today; bad nutrition. Now before you start to attack me with your (pitch)forks, I would like to mention that your meals can be generally healthy and you still could be feeling like a blob. And if you can honestly say that you are healthy with your diet, hydration, sleep and fitness and you still feel bad; please contact a doctor. Heck contact them anyway. But for those people who can’t honestly claim even 90% healthy habits, this post is for them. (ME)

Through out history we have been developing and adapting. Many theories suggest that one of the biggest changes for us humans, and why we as a species have survived was first introducing fish and meat into our diet and then learning how to cook it as well. This however has within couple of decades turned against us. While I honestly believe that some fish and meat products in our diet can be healthy, I will be first one to admit that being mostly meat based is probably no the healthiest (especially not when it is part of fast food).

Heavy saturated fat based foods make us groggy as it is more difficult to digest, making the blood from our head go to our digestive system. On the other hand too many carbs/sugars makes us have a spike of energy and then we are all of a sudden very tired. Usually this is followed by us eating again or drinking coffee/energy drinks to get us back to being able to work. Then we crash again and it ends up being a vicious cycle.

How should we eat? I don’t think I can answer that without some disclaimers: 1) I am not a doctor, nutritionist nor have I researched the topic enough to promise miracle results. 2) I don’t think there is a diet that fits everyone (and I don’t think there are miracle diets). I can however suggest some things by what I have read. This is based on my research on what are healthiest foods for productivity A well balanced diet with healthy fats from nuts and seeds, avocados (can I hear a YAY from all the millennials) Some good carbs; for example vegetables, fruits, whole grains. And proteins from either plant sources, like legumes and if you aren’t vegan then some fish and lean meats. Now even if you are vegan I know you can have a balanced diet. Just don’t restrict yourself and remember to take supplements. Especially B12 and iron. B12 is very hard to get from plants only and iron while possible, is often something that will be lacking on a vegan diet.

Speaking of vitamins and minerals, some that are supposed to help with productivity are B-vitamins, vitamin D3 (D-vitamin deficiency is especially common in northern countries due to the lack of sun light, just keep that in mind, especially during winter months.) Omega 3 Fatty acids, vitamin C and magnesium. Most of these are reasonably easy to have in your diet. But if you have some dietary restrictions, like being vegan, not being able to eat fish or being allergic to some fruits/veggies with these vitamins/mineral, please do take the time to supplement. More info about these vitamins and where to find them: 5 Vitamins & Minerals to boost focus, concentration and productivity

Productivity is a result of many things. Healthy lifestyle, good habits and systems that make it easier to do things than to procrastinate.

What do you think is the biggest aspect of your lack of productivity? (If you lack it) Eating habits, lack of exercise, lack or sleep (perhaps them all?) Being unorganized, not having discipline(actually meaning having good systems in place)

Comment down below, I would love to engage with you! And as always thanks for reading πŸ™‚

Xoxo

Goals, Personal development, Student Life

Gamify your success

When you play Super Mario, despite sometimes killing him of, you usually try again, and again…. and again. Sometimes this lasts for so long, you end up losing track of time, causing you to fail at doing something actually productive. But you can actually learn a lot from your games. There are numerous studies done, showing how gaming (a reasonable amount) is actually healthy and good for development. It helps with problem solving, motor skills and improves creativity. But today I am not talking about those benefits. I am however very open to write about that, if you are interested.

My topic today is about turning your actual life into a game. This is not originally my idea, a lot of people on YouTube and on their blogs, do challenges and use apps to make their life into a game. Some examples are Thomas Frank, The Goal Guys and Max Hertan.

What does it mean in practice? It means first of all that you have a goal. It could be writing a 10 page essay, or learning to do a split in 30 days. What ever your goal is, it can be gamefied. How to do it? I will break it down bellow, just like a real life video game, everyone will have their own approach, so feel free to tweak anything that you feel necessary.

  1. Have a goal. In a video game like Super Mario, it could be getting through a level or defeating Bowser. If it is defeating Bowser, you use the levels as your steps, until you are at the final showdown. If it is getting through a level your steps will be on a shorter scale, like jumping in the right place and killing the right enemy at the write time. So just like in a game, with a goal you have to come up with steps to win.
  2. Track your progress in a visible way. It wouldn’t be fun to play Mario or any other game, if you could never see how many enemies you have killed, or if you would never level up. That is the same in a real life goal. If you want to learn splits, make sure you document your progress. Even if you aren’t as close as you want to be to a split, at least you can see how far you have come, if you for example take pictures. Or you could mark in your calendar daily how many minutes you have stretched etc.
  3. Reward yourself. This is slightly controversial. There are a lot of people who are super successful, that think this is not helpful. And if you only do things because of a treat, instead of feeling the pride for getting healthier or for getting the project done. I can understand the concern. However I assume, that people don’t want to do things that seem big and daunting without some kind of small wins in between. So stretch while you watch a series you love. It’s two birds with one stone and it is more fun that way as well. Or after each page you have written of the essay you can go scratch your puppy. Make sure it is something that you don’t over do the rewarding tho. You don’t deserve to binge watch youtube for stretching your hamstrings for 2 seconds.
  4. Keep it real. if you start too many goals, too many projects and you try to make everything into a game, you might lose. You can’t play Mario, Call of Duty and solve the Rubik’s Cube all at the same time. The same thing with goals. Don’t beat yourself up for falling down or not getting through a level. Only beat yourself up, if you didn’t get back up to try again.

Here are some apps to helps you gamify your goals/tasks:

  • Habitica: Gamify Your tasks
  • Forest: Stay Focused
  • Fitness RPG- Gamify your Pedometer
  • Do it Now- RPG To Do List/ Task List

These are some of the apps you will get on an android device. I am sure there are many for the Apple phones as well.

Thanks for reading! This post was really fun to write, as this is something I want to incorporate more into my life, to get more exciting and interesting things done (as well as the mandatory ones). What are some of your goals you would like to turn into a game?

Thanks for reading πŸ˜‰ Untill next time

Xoxo