Have you ever had the feeling of butterflies fluttering in your stomach? Feeling like you will burst at the seams from excitement? And what if I tell you that this feeling is possible to achieve even without having a crush on someone, or being in love?
I am sure that that feeling has been achieved by those who are adrenaline junkies, those who love performing for big crowds. What makes you feel this way?
For me it seems to be abroad and getting out of my comfort zone. That doesn’t mean jumping from a plane with a parachute. For me it’s just learning new things. And I want to give you couple of tips in order to make you achieve the same feeling of excitement towards you life.
I would first like to mention that you being afraid of being out of your comfort zone is natural. It is caused by two things. Our routines become very easy over time for our brains, due to the neurological paths in our brains. The other thing is, that brain makes us feel like we are in danger when we try to change those pathways. (To read more: https://medium.com/the-mission/the-science-backed-guide-for-destroying-your-comfort-zone-and-optimizing-your-success-7ce0b12a1275 )
So what to do when our brain is the one working against us? Stop thinking and just do it.
I don’t mean this as a motivational phrase because quite frankly it isn’t for me. But it is a fact. The more you think about whether or not you should do something, the more likely you are to reason why you shouldn’t and thus you don’t.
- Don’t plan ahead what you should do. Rather just take your chances when something comes up. What I mean by this, that sometimes goals are just us wanting to feel like we are doing something “smart”. And some goals are great; like stopping smoking. But to get out of our comfort zone, we shouldn’t have time to think about how horrible it can be. So why prepare yourself for a failure by actually writing a goal on a paper (or thinking about it) giving yourself time to overthink it? Just take sudden chances, like friends asking you to go hiking or a job opportunity online that you weren’t expecting.
- If at all possible say yes before thinking. I say if possible because sometimes we have things happening at the same time like school , work or similar. But if someone asks you to go for a hike next saturday and you know you have nothing then, say yes right away. You saying you will come, will make you accountable for the promise.
- Spend time with people who are more daring and ready to do a lot of different things. You wouldn’t want to be a party pooper. So spend time with those who will make you want to do new things. By being with interesting people, who do other things than just watch youtube, will make you more interesting.
Why should you get out of your comfort zone one might ask? There are many reasons. Not getting stuck in your old routines helps fighting of Alzheimer’s. It makes your life interesting, no-one wants to lie on their deathbed and remember their life as : “Wake up, eat, work, eat, come home, sleep–> and again” The more you do new things, the better you will get at it, the less anxious you will be, when life forces you out of that zone without your permission.